How The Way You CommunicateWith Him Determines Whether Or NotYOU Are “The One” For Him…

You know just how hard is it to get a man to open up to you… and here’s something else you need to know; you are not alone.

In fact… most men have so many barriers to open communication built up in their heads, there is a very good chance that your man has never opened up to a woman before.

Seriously. These barriers can be difficult to “crack”… especially for women who don’t know how…

Because of this, many men will go their entire lives without ever feeling like they have met someone who really understands them.

Remember: We men want to share our feelings, and have someone we can open up to...

And when we meet a woman who doesn’t know how to make us feel comfortable doing so… we get just as frustrated as you do… we just show it in a different way…

That said… it’s vitally important that you understand this one simple thing:

A man wants to communicate with you… but he needs your help!

If you can be the one woman a guy has been involved with who actually can connect with him on a deep, intimate level… it can be a very powerful and unique experience for a man…

I’m talking about something he has never experienced before.And when you are the one woman with whom he can have this amazing experience… a very powerful thing begins to happen inside of him…

Your man will see you not only as his lover and partner… but as his soul mate... the one woman on earth who has helped him release all of those feelings and frustrations he’s “bottled up” inside of him over all of those years… and the one woman he can truly connect with.

And fortunately… making a man feel comfortable and open to sharing his feelings with you can actually be easy… when you know the right way to overcome the barriers to communication that are built up in his mind…

I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You

Dear Reader,
If you want to make a man fall in love with you... Or you want to get that "spark" back in your relationship, check this out-There is one thing that is likely holding you back from the relationship of your dreams: you. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain.What if you, your thoughts and your actions were the biggest obstacle to letting love into your life?

And what if the most certain and fool-proof way to make sure you attract the right man and create the right relationship didn't have anything to do with spending your time trying to figure out what’s going on with him... But instead had everything to do with what was going on inside of you?

When it comes to love and relationships, if you haven't laid the groundwork for yourself first, odds are you're not going to experience any kind of lasting love and happiness- no matter how "perfect" your man is, or how hard you try to make your relationship work.In fact, the harder you try, the farther love and a fun and "flowing" relationship will move away from you. Why is this? The short answer is that love is not a destination.
Love is not something that you'll one day "get right" and arrive at and enjoy forever. You can't force love to come together and take place- especially with a man. Love is a process. And so are relationships.

And because of this, love requires that if you want the best possible relationship... then you have to engage in love from the best possible place within yourself, everyday.What you give really is what you get, like it or not.

This is part of the secret of creating and sharing an amazing level of love and affection in your life with a man- You have to bring your very best self to everything you do with a man, and in your relationship.

And that includes not just what you say and do around a man... but the feelings and emotions you go on inside you that are what drives what you say and do with a man.

Your relationship with a man is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself, and the feelings and emotions you carry inside.What are you carrying inside that you can't or don't want to talk about or share?How is this really at the heart of what's holding you back and getting in your way.

The strangest part is, what seems like the thing that will hurt the most (confronting the things we don't want to think about)... is the very thing that will set us free and open us up to something bigger and better.

If you're carrying fear and pain from your past, then you'll create distance between you and a man... and you'll unknowingly push him away with your worries and anxiety.
But...If you show up everyday with an open, loving, and compassionate heart... and you radiate the things that are part of your "best self"... a man won't be able to keep himself from being drawn to you- and you'll attract him effortlessly from the inside out.
And when you can do this, you'll be amazed at how quickly even the most difficult and impossible seeming situations suddenly turn into moments of learning, growth, and deeper connection.
"Disagreements" turn into opportunities where you and a man learn more about how you both really feel and start understanding each other better.
"Fights" turn into ways that you both break out of your old patterns and grow incredible new connections.

"Uncertainty" turns into the very essence of the excitement that keeps you both coming back to each other to learn and discover more... and move to deeper levels of love and appreciation.
But you can't even begin to get there and turn these things around in your relationship if you haven’t put yourself in the right "state" first.
You have to put yourself in the right place in your heart and mind before a man is going to experience the kind of love and attraction he needs to feel with you for your relationship to grow close and last.
This amazing program will help you overcome the personal challenges that are keeping you from experiencing true love and intimacy. And it will help you do it right away.
You'll learn how to let go of the painful stories that still cause you heartache and pain, even in new relationships. You'll learn how to break the self-destructive habits that are making it impossible for you to create an open, loving relationship with a man.
You'll learn how to rid your life of the insecurity, worry, and hesitation that often drives men away but you don't feel like you can do anything about.
Let me help you discover a way to regain your own feminine "power" and shift your mindset from looking for the right guy to being the right woman who is ready to welcome love into her life and a man can't resist.

Because if you wait around for a man to be the one to help you get your heart, your mind, and your love life together... you might be waiting a while.
So, take the time to be in the right place for yourself first... and the right man and the right relationship will follow. I know it.

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love, I want to know how I can improve my materials even more and help you live the life filled with love and joy you deserve.

P.S.One more quick question;What's your biggest frustration with men, relationships and dating? Do you find it easy to meet men, but hard to keep their attention and interest as soon as things start to get serious?
Are you wondering how to approach your boyfriend about commitment, because you've been together a long time now and he isn’t bringing it up on his own? Are you worried that the man you're with will cheat on you?
I actually put together a list of "Top 10"questions that I most commonly get from women like you, who are wondering how to get past certain "bumps" in the road when it comes to their love lives.
Find out what to do in each of these situations, and see if your specific relationship or dating is worth you think it should be.
Sadly, many women will go their entire lives without ever experiencing true love and connection with a man they care about. I don't want you to be one of them. This blog will show you exactly how to find the love you’ve been waiting your whole life to find and do it in a way that will make you feel good inside because you'll know that you're giving yourself and a man what you both Really want - an attractive, happy, and together woman. I personally guarantee it.

I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

Dear Reader,

If you want to make a man fall in love with you... Or you want to get that "spark" back in your relationship, check this out-

There is one thing that is likely holding you back from the relationship of your dreams: you. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain.

What if you, your thoughts and your actions were the biggest obstacle to letting love into your life?
And what if the most certain and fool-proof way to make sure you attract the right man and create the right relationship didn't have anything to do with spending your time trying to figure out what’s going on with him...
But instead had everything to do with what was going on inside of you?
When it comes to love and relationships, if you haven't laid the groundwork for yourself first, odds are you're not going to experience any kind of lasting love and happiness- no matter how "perfect" your man is, or how hard you try to make your relationship work.
In fact, the harder you try, the farther love and a fun and "flowing" relationship will move away from you. Why is this? The short answer is that love is not a destination.
Love is not something that you'll one day "get right" and arrive at and enjoy forever. You can't force love to come together and take place- especially with a man. Love is a process. And so are relationships.

And because of this, love requires that if you want the best possible relationship... then you have to engage in love from the best possible place within yourself, everyday.

What you give really is what you get, like it or not.
This is part of the secret of creating and sharing an amazing level of love and affection in your life with a man-
You have to bring your very best self to everything you do with a man, and in your relationship.

And that includes not just what you say and do around a man... but the feelings and emotions you go on inside you that are what drives what you say and do with a man.

Your relationship with a man is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself, and the feelings and emotions you carry inside.

What are you carrying inside that you can't or don't want to talk about or share?
How is this really at the heart of what's holding you back and getting in your way.
The strangest part is, what seems like the thing that will hurt the most (confronting the
things we don't want to think about)... is the very thing that will set us free and open us up to something bigger and better.

If you're carrying fear and pain from your past, then you'll create distance between you and a man... and you'll unknowingly push him away with your worries and anxiety.
But...
If you show up everyday with an open, loving, and compassionate heart... and you radiate the things that are part of your "best self"... a man won't be able to keep himself from being drawn to you- and you'll attract him effortlessly from the inside out.
And when you can do this, you'll be amazed at how quickly even the most difficult and impossible seeming situations suddenly turn into moments of learning, growth, and deeper connection.

"Disagreements" turn into opportunities where you and a man learn more about how you both really feel and start understanding each other better.

"Fights" turn into ways that you both break out of your old patterns and grow incredible new connections.

"Uncertainty" turns into the very essence of the excitement that keeps you both coming back to each other to learn and discover more... and move to deeper levels of love and appreciation.

But you can't even begin to get there and turn these things around in your relationship if you haven’t put yourself in the right "state" first.

You have to put yourself in the right place in your heart and mind before a man is going to experience the kind of love and attraction he needs to feel with you for your relationship to grow close and last.

This amazing program will help you overcome the personal challenges that are keeping you from experiencing true love and intimacy. And it will help you do it right away.

You'll learn how to let go of the painful stories that still cause you heartache and pain, even in new relationships. You'll learn how to break the self-destructive habits that are making it impossible for you to create an open, loving relationship with a man.
You'll learn how to rid your life of the insecurity, worry, and hesitation that often drives men away but you don't feel like you can do anything about.

Let me help you discover a way to regain your own feminine "power" and shift your mindset from looking for the right guy to being the right woman who is ready to welcome love into her life and a man can't resist.

Because if you wait around for a man to be the one to help you get your heart, your mind, and your love life together... you might be waiting a while.

So, take the time to be in the right place for yourself first... and the right man and the right relationship will follow. I know it.

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love, I want to know how I can improve my materials even more and help you live the life filled with love and joy you deserve.

Thank You

The Myth of Choices And The Paradox Of Attraction

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...So often we think that because we want to communicate a message, that others are going to naturally understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy and wears way to much make-up? Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don't think that her appearance is communicating the message to men that she thinks it is”...?Yeah, I have too.

Well, here's the deal:If you do something to “let a man know how you feel” ... but he isn't open to the situation at that time, or he isn't attracted to you, then it's going to backfire.
It's going to trigger a feeling for the man, that I like to call the “Instant Ewww”.
The “Instant Ewww” is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of attraction. Once a man feels it, you're done. It’s over. It’s like hammering a railroad spike into the coffin.

Once a man feels the “Instant Ewww”, he'll start behaving differently. In short, he'll back off or even disappear. So where did I get the concept of the “Instant Ewww”?I got it from watching women.

I have actually heard several women use the word “Ewww”, when describing how they felt about a guy that was “confessing his love”... and of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return by the woman.

Men do the same kind of thing with a woman they're not attracted to.

Often they try to be “nice” about it. They let the attention pump up their ego a bit, and then they create what is often an unconscious barrier in their mind, that closes off communication or contact with her.

And the resulting vacuum sound you hear, is what's happening as any attraction and interest he might have felt, evaporates.

So what causes the “Instant Ewww”?

And why would a man feel it, towards a woman who was trying to be nice... a woman who was giving him attention, a gift or telling him how she feels?

Because if you think about it from his perspective, you'll realize that the moment you do something to “confess”, you've created a turning point in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless. I mean, men know when they are getting some “special attention” from a woman. And they usually know it from the beginning.

But now that you've started pursuing him and talking about how you feel, you've created a negative tension that can be very uncomfortable. You’ve triggered an emotion that can actually repel a man and make him even more detached from his emotions.
Here's the thing...

You can't “make a man like you” or “change how he feels about you”, by doing nice things for him. Doing “nice” things for a man who isn't attracted to you, hurts you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling, that makes it so he'll perhaps never like you.

Men are the worst at this, by the way. They make this mistake over and over again in life, because they're doing what makes sense to them. They're doing it, because they don't have an understanding of attraction.

I mean, if you have a friend and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.
On the other hand...

If you have a man that you “like” in a romantic way, and he doesn't “feel it” for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want him to like you more, it will backfire... and he will not only not like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you.
Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a guy.

In their minds, it goes like this: Like him.Tell him you like him>He likes you
Well, remember... if you follow this pattern, yourself, with men who aren't already attracted to you, then it's going to backfire. If he's not into you, then it goes like this:
He thinks of you as a friend.You tell him you like him>He gets the “Instant Ewwws” and withdraws...


THE ANSWER

There are really two answers to this problem. The first answer, is what to do if you're in a situation where you like a particular guy, but you don't know if he likes you back. don’t get heavy with him.

Don't buy him a big gift, do something nice to show him how much you think about him or write him a love letter...Don't send him a note to his work that says, “From your secret admirer”.

Don't call him several times, without hearing from him. And don't confess your love for him. If you want to know how he feels about you, do something to attract him and see how he reacts instead of telling him you love him and hearing the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.

As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than him. Use signals from him to find out how he feels... and if you don't know how to read and create those signals, then learn. Asking a man if he's interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are “his type”, will actually destroy the chances that his attraction and interest in you will grow.

Really. The second answer, is to not get into this particular situation in the first place. Avoid it entirely. And how does one do that? One does that by creating attraction from the beginning. One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why men have the physical and emotional response of attraction triggered.

One does that by knowing what you're doing from the beginning. And what's the best way to learn that skill? I thought you'd never ask...Well, I've written about attraction before and I'll write about it again.

How To Create An Intense Attraction With A Man

Well, I’d like to tell you a story...It's a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don't be alarmed. Once upon a time, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.

At first, he was just another attractive man... but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel attracted to him... and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.

But there was one problem. As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure. Why? Because she couldn't tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.

Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him... and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and invited her “inside” for a little while.

But something was wrong with the picture. He just wasn't acting like a man who was “falling in love”. He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.

And things seemed to be hot and cold. Sometimes he would look at her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.

The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of “screwing things up” or “scaring him off”, by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn't ask her out.

Plus, the more insecure she became, the less time he seemed to want to spend with her. After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how she felt, that he would feel the same way.

So she made a bold move. She told him how she felt. She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him.

He responded by flirting with her and he spent some time alone with her, and they even kissed and held each other.
But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn't call her and wasn’t really “available” to her.

This only confused the woman more. She didn't know how to take it...Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?

Did it mean that he wasn't ready for a long-term relationship?
Did it mean that he didn't love her, and that he was trying to give her a hint? Did it mean that she hadn't tried hard enough?

Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and really let him know how she felt? She finally decided that she couldn't go on like this anymore... she had to be with him.

She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him... so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter... again confessing her feelings. And then, something unthinkable happened. Either he didn't reply at all... (Ouch!)

Or he replied and she connected with him on an emotional and physical level for a brief time, but then he backed away.
Then she called him a couple of times, the following week before reaching him.

He made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I'll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”... and hung up... but she never got a call back. Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened. the end...

Ok, I'm back. Now, wasn't that a sweet story? Heartwarming, huh?.I know; I should keep my day job, and not take-up writing romance novels...

Now, let's talk about that story. That story is basically a myth. But I'm not talking about fiction here. I’m talking about a story that rings true for lots of women. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level, because you can identify with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for some women?
Because lots of women have been there in one way or another... at one time or another... and many have been there often in their lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power, is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it brings back...

Stories and situations like this one, really fascinate me.

They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to understand and solve the puzzles that they represent.
In this particular situation, I think there is a solution.
It lies in understanding a secret that lots of women don't get.

That secret comes down to the reality that if a man isn't attracted to a woman, all of her attempts to confess her love, convince him to like her and court her, backfire.

In other words, they not only don't work; they actually make things worse. In other words, the very things that a woman does to try to make a man like her, make him not like her.

They make him run. All of those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the woman feeling them, to do things that make the man go away. It sucks!

But it's a strangely common dynamic, that also takes place inside dating situations and new relationships without women (or men) really being aware of it, and understanding what's going on.
And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you, that I'll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future...

And maybe you can start to understand what's going on a little better, if you think about what it's like when a man you're NOT attracted to, desperately wants your attention, affection and your time.

Have you ever had a guy pursue you?

As he's trying to get your attention, approval and affection, all of his pleading and effort just seems to bug you more and make you want to get away. Even if all he's doing, is telling you great things about yourself and how he feels about you? Strange and interesting.

Thanks.

Why Some Women Are Just Unlucky In Love Life?

Now… I’d like to ask you another question… and I’m asking that you be totally honest with me here…

When you are alone and thinking about the pain and frustrations you’ve experienced in life and in love… what do you attribute to be the cause of it all?

Do you ever feel that you might have just been “unlucky” in love? And maybe it’s just that your “time” has yet to come?

And… have you ever thought that when that time does come… and if you could just meet the right man for you… that all of your problems, fears, and disappointments would simply go away?

Maybe you see your life as a puzzle… and your perfect man as the missing piece that will finally “complete” you…

And deep down, you feel that if you could just find that missing piece… or when it finds you… that everything will finally come together and fit perfectly… and all of your troubles would simply fade away…Sound familiar?

I think we’ve all felt this way at one time or another. It’s nice and comforting to think that one day we will all meet the love of our lives and live happily ever after.
In fact… this fairytale has been burned into our minds since we were all very young…

And because of this… many of us never stop to think that this belief of our prince showing up and “taking us away” from all of our troubles could be just that… a fairytale that may never come true.

The truth is that the thought of being “unlucky” is a dangerous one… because it allows to you overlook what is probably the real source of the problem…
Think about this for a second…

What if the feelings and problems you are experiencing in life and in love are not a result of you being “unlucky” and not finding the right man for you… but the very reasons why you have yet to find him? Have you ever thought that this could be the case?
Thanks.

How To Stop Feeling Cursed While Living Without Love?

Hey Guys

Do you ever get that feeling that finding a fulfilling and lasting relationship with a man
seems like it's nearly impossible? Have you ever caught yourself thinking of all
the reasons that love won't work out in your life... instead of finding all the reasons it can
and will?
Do you ever wonder if there even is a man out there who is capable of not only seeing you for who you really are...
But who is also able to truly love you for all that you are?
If so, then you're not alone. My experience over the last several years
has led me to meet tons women who are incredibly smart, beautiful, and loving...
But who all make one tragic mistake- They let their mind get in the way of the
love that they want to give and receive in their heart.
If you've ever caught yourself feeling like it's safer to not meet a man, not open up, and
to not date to love... then you know what I'm talking about.
If you know in your heart that you want nothing more than to have that deep kind of intimate love in your life again...
But you know that one of the biggest struggles you're facing is simply getting past the fear
and resistance you have in your mind...
Let me ask you... What if you came across that amazing man who
you knew could be the kind of lover, friend, and companion that would last forever...
But you let negative thoughts and patterns from your past get in the way?
Wouldn't you just kick yourself?
You've tried being the amazing woman you are. You've tried to give "dating" a chance to help you connect with that right man.
And you've told yourself that you would open your heart again for love... even though the
possibility of getting hurt again scares you more than you would care to admit...
But love still isn't flowing and surrounding you in your life. Why is that, and how can that be? It doesn't seem fair.
There's something I believe in strongly that I want you to hear-
When we are truly open to recognizing, giving,
and receiving love... something incredible happens- Love surrounds us.
I want you to feel what it's like to be surrounded by love both in a deeply connected relationship with a great man... and in all your relationships.
But I need your help. It's time you did the best thing you can do
when you've tried your best but you're still not getting what you want-
And that's to discover how other women like you have turned their love lives around.
The good news is, it's a whole lot easier than it might sound.
It starts with creating a small and simple "shift" inside yourself.
And it's this one small shift that radiates out like a ripple on the water to start having a dramatic effect on everything else.
Thanks.