Are Men Really Intimidated By Strong Women?

If your relationships with men seem to get harder over time, instead of closer, and even though you love each other, you find you start turning against one another instead of towards.....

Then you need find out the truth about what will quickly stop this pattern of conflict and withdrawal and inspire your man to be a great partner to you again.

Are you the kind of woman who doesn't "need" a man, but you're clear that you're ready to have the right man and the right relationship in your life?

Well, have you thought about whether or not you know what it takes to make a relationship with a man not only work, but thrive?

My best tips and secrets about what goes on in a man's mind and what inspires a man to become an amazingly devoted lover and partner with you.

I want you to tell me if you've noticed this funny and annoying thing about men. Have you noticed that men seem to go for women who don't have their act together, and who are "needy" and looking for a man for all the wrong reasons?

Like lots of other women, do you find that men don't recognize or appreciate you and great women from all the other ones out there who don't have their lives together?

It's enough to make you think that men really don't want a strong, independent, self-sufficient woman - even though they seem to say that's what they want.

Or is it that men just have awful taste in women? What's going on here?

If you're like lots of women I've met and talked to, then you've got your act together, you've got a great life of your own, and you want to meet a man and fall in love again.

But it seems like the more you do to be strong and stand on your own two feet, the less men act comfortable or interested in a serious relationship with you.

Men seem to be intimidated by strong women. Well, let me start by saying this:

Be strong. A great man is in no way intimidated by a strong, successful, powerful woman.
In fact, a great man is completely and undeniably turned on and intensely attracted to a powerful, radiant, confident, beautiful woman.

Now, if only being strong and powerful in our relationships, while still being open and loving was this simple... And this is where I've found a huge "disconnect" happens for too many amazing women.

You want a great guy, you're doing all the things to have a great life, but for some reason the right man either doesn't show up, or he seems put off by the fact that you don't "need" him and have your own life.

If you can relate to any of this, I'm sure you're pretty frustrated with men and relationships. You know you're supposed to be happy without a man. But sometimes it seems like men both want and don't want you to need them.

Arggh! Here's something you should know - As strange and untrue as it might seem right now, the right man is not put off by you being independent and having your own life. Men do crave women who are strong, feminine and powerful.

Women like this are very sexy to men. So then why do so many men act like they are intimated or put off by strong women?

The short answer is... When it comes to attraction, love and relationships, lots of strong, independent women accidentally stop making the space in their lives to be soft and vulnerable with a man.

And this lack of vulnerability isn't a small thing. Not being comfortable with being vulnerable becomes the root of this disconnect that keeps strong women from connecting with men and enjoying amazing deep and lasting relationships.

Because without being emotionally vulnerable, a man will never be drawn into connecting with you through his feelings.

And if you as a woman don't make a man stop being his same old self who's empty inside, and help him start to feel something incredible inside when he's with you that he's never felt before, then he's just not going to believe that you're the one for him.

Think about it for a second - Could it be true that you've stopped being that soft, easy to get to know, lovable woman you know a man can't resist, and instead you've started "armoring" or protecting yourself?

Or maybe you've even gotten so far away from your own emotions and the place of love inside you that it's going to be hard for a man to see this inside you?

If you're nodding your head right now thinking, "Oh no, that's me", then don't be too concerned.

It can be easy and natural to reconnect to that soft, loving, feminine place inside you that is what drives a man wild about you in the first place - even if you're already in a relationship that feels like your love is fading.

It can be easy when you know what it takes to shift out of that old way of being with men, and of feeling closed-off in relationships. The very best way I know of to help you or any woman quickly get back to that loving place inside will not only make you feel great inside and open you up...

But will also instantly attract the right man to you, or quickly recapture that special man in your life's attention.

Don't waste your time trying to avoid getting hurt. Don't clutter your mind with thoughts of "what if" about how your man is feeling.
And don't keep spending your energy trying to make your relationships work, when you're putting all your energy in the wrong place.

To get back on track with being the strong yet open and lovable woman your man won't be able to keep his hands off of, you need to turn-around your approach to men in your relationship now.

Do you know what happens when you haven't felt love in a long time, and you doubt that a man could ever really be the kind of partner you want?

I'll tell you. Not good things. When you worry about:

Getting hurt again .Losing yourself again in a relationship .Being shut out and unappreciated by a man Guess what this creates in lots of really sweet and loving women?

It creates a tough outer shell. And what does this shell do? It keeps men at arm's distance, even when the man wants to be there to love and support you.

This shell also makes getting close to you painful and difficult, as when a man tries to get past your tough shell, he's going to get hurt trying to get through.

And it's going to feel uncomfortable for you trying to open up and let him in. This is not the way to let love into your life and create the kind of relationship that can last and grow forever.

It will never work for you. And it will never allow the right man to get close to you, and then feel that your relationship is the incredible experience of love and growth that you both need it to be to make your love last.

By the way, if you're with a man and you're afraid to open up and be more vulnerable with him...And you're having a tough time trusting him enough to truly let him in and know everything you are inside and out...

Your man is going to sense it. But most men at rate of (98%) won't know what's going on. They'll just know that it feels unusually hard and difficult to get close to you.

And they'll sense and see that whenever any "bump" or doubt comes up that you need to get through together, that you react in a way that pushes you both farther apart, instead of closer.

And ultimately, if you're with the right kind of man, he'll feel disappointed and drained by your relationship - instead of inspired.

You need to be loved and feel inspired by a man in a relationship, and it's also true that a man has to feel this way with you to be happy with you.

The question is... Are you bringing that open and loving woman to him in your relationship who is going to keep him inspired and giving of love even when he feels tired or withdrawn in his own mind?

Or are you closing off to him, pushing him away to try and protect yourself. and hoping that he'll see through it all and love you deeply enough to help you both get through it together.

Now that you're starting to see this more clearly, you have a choice. You can stay in the place that probably feels safe and comfortable of being tough and protecting yourself to make sure you don't get hurt again.

But you know where that road leads. Your other choice is to do what feels a lot less comfortable at first, but is going to give you what you really want from love and a relationship.

And that is to stop trying to protect yourself and let love in by letting your man get close to you to where you open up and depend on him emotionally.

This is the catch. So many strong women are so busy taking care of their own needs that they forget how important and necessary it is in love to allow others to be there for us, to where we can allow ourselves to need and want to receive from them.

How comfortable are you at being completely open and honest with your feelings with a man, and doing it in a way that makes it so that you could be hurt?

If you're not comfortable with this, and you've been keeping your feelings and your worries to yourself, then odds are you don't have much of anyone or anything to lean on or depend on for yourself.

In fact, it's probably you who everyone else leans and depends on. It's great to give, but it's time you learned to also receive.

Men feel an intense need and desire to give to the woman they love. And without this, most men will just never feel that connected to you. So you can either learn to open up and take the chance of letting a man be there, love you and give to you.

Or you can keep feeling drained by taking care of everything in your own life yourself, and caring for everyone else at the same time – while feeling like you don't get much back in return.

It's time to make a shift and break the pattern. and when you do, the man in your life will instantly notice and start giving and supporting you more.
I want to ask you to do something for me. I want you to get outside what you've been comfortable with till now as a woman when it comes to men and sharing what you feel, and what you want.

And I want you to take the chance of allowing a man to hear that you have needs and desires of your own that you want him to be the one to give to you, and share with him.

If you're ready to really learn how to share and start to receive more from men in relationships, it doesn't have to feel so scary.

In fact, even if you're in a relationship where you feel stuck in a rut and you're not getting much in the way of love or appreciation back from your man, making the shift to where your man can't help but want to give more love and support to you, and you are open to receiving it couldn't be easier.

All you have to do is to learn the important aspects for what the foundation base of a great relationship really is.

When you have this foundations in place, and you know the simple but powerful relationship skills that come along with them, getting what you want with a man and from your relationship is easy.

Your man makes it easy for you. On the other hand, when you don't have these required skills, and you don't have this foundation base in place in your relationship, then anything can come along and cast doubt and uncertainty on everything in your relationship.

It's time you got to enjoy what it feels like to have your needs met in a relationship.

And it's time you weren't the one to be looking out for everyone else's happiness, when meanwhile you don't feel fulfilled yourself.

As you know, for lots of us relationships are a lot of work. Get out of the cycle and the trap too many women are in of setting things up in your relationship to where it's tons of work and struggle just to try and connect with your man.

And instead start to find out what it's like when love and connection flows and grows stronger over time. I promise you I am going to show you the essential relationship skills that will have you getting what you want from your man, and build that solid relationships foundation base for you.

And if you're not 100% thrilled and ecstatic with the new relationship and love life you have after going through this blog post, then don't pay a thing.
I'm that confident that if you keep reading most of this blog post, can and will turn around your love life, even if you're in a relationship that feels stuck.

Stop trying to do it all yourself. Find out how to have a man ready, waiting, and excited to be the incredible partner you know you want and deserve in your love life.

And remember. It's your job to stay open to giving and receiving love. And it's also your job to get over the fear of what might go wrong, so when you're finally there in front of a great guy you don't mess things up for yourself because you don't know how to let him in into your heart and hold him there forever.

It's a man's job to meet you at this right place and take your love and relationship to the next level with you. If you're a strong, independent woman, then the irony is that it's often even harder for you to truly let down your guard and allow a man to get close to you.

Because you're used to taking care of yourself and doing everything on your own. It's time you made it easy for a man to love you again.

And it's time you allowed love to fill you and create the kind of connection with a man he'll never ever want to be without in his entire love life. If you've been finding that the more you want love, the more you seem to accidentally push good men away. then you need to follow my blog post to turn around your relationship for the sake of your life and love.


And let me know how things change for you. I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love. Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone!
Thanks!

The Personality Traits Men Find Irresistible In Women

The inner beauty men love in women’s personality; is the supreme realization of the innate idiosyncrasy of a living being. It is an act of high courage flung in the face of life, the absolute affirmation of all that constitutes the individual, the most successful adaptation to the universal condition of existence coupled with the greatest possible freedom for self-determination.

If you are obsessing about whether a man will fall in love with you because you do not look like a cover girl, forget it. You need more than just your outer beauty to get a man to fall in love with you. Sure your looks may initially catch a guy's eyes, but it will take more than your looks to keep him. So in this post I will share the five personality traits that men find irresistible.

Your looks cannot buy a man 's love. So forget trying to surgically alter your appearance in order to attract men. If you are thinking about going to a plastic surgeon to get an extreme body makeover, you may end up doing yourself more harm than good. What men find attractive in women goes way beyond what a woman looks like. 

If looks were the sole reason men fall in love with women, then why do some men still cheat on their beautiful girlfriends and wives. And if you look closely, the girls they have these affairs with are nothing to write home about. The reason? That is precisely why I have written this article.So without wasting any more time, here are the five personality traits that men find more attractive than beauty alone:

Pt#1. Sexiness

The sexier you are, the more attractive men will find you. So what is sexy? Being sexy does not apply to any one aspect of your being. Sexiness has something to do with how you dress, talk, carry yourself, and interact with men. If you have a good sense of style and you know how to wear clothes that complement your figure, then you have won a third of the battle of being sexy. And the way you carry yourself when you interact with men, makes up the other two-thirds.

Pt#2. High self-esteem

If you cannot walk into a room and feel confident that you have what it takes to attract the single men in that room, then your lack of confidence will ooze out from every pore of your body and paint a picture in the minds of the men who are looking at you. But if on the other hand you walk into a room looking self-assured, more men will find you attractive.

Pt#3. Pleasant personality

You can get more guys to chase you if you know how to smile and show your happy and friendly side. If you walk into a room looking like a guy just dumped you and you have that look that says, "I hate all men", then men will read your message loud and clear and stay away from you. 

Pt#4. Intelligence

You don't have to be a brain surgeon to get a date with the cutest guy at the party. All you have to do is speak intelligently about issues of the day and a lot of men will want to talk and get to know you better. 

Pt#5. Approachable

This personality trait ranks very high when it comes to the traits men find very attractive in women. If your friends find you easy going, then thank your goodness. You stand a much better chance of attracting more men. But if your friends think that you are very difficult and hard to get along or live with, then you can be sure that the men you meet will feel the same way.

Sadly, many women will go their entire lives without ever experiencing true love and connection with a man they care about. I don't want you to be one of them. This blog will show you exactly how to find the love you’ve been waiting your whole life to find and do it in a way that will make you feel good inside because you'll know that you're giving yourself and a man what you both Really want - an attractive, happy, and together woman. I personally guarantee it.

I will talk to you again soon.Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.

Best of luck in life and love!

Thanks!

Why Men Hate to Commit to Women In A Relationships?

To begin with let me ask you this simple question;Why are you playing the hot and cold game with him? If your relationships with men seem to get harder over time, instead of closer, and even though you love each other, you find you start turning against one another instead of towards...Then you need to find out the truth about what will quickly stop this pattern of conflict and withdrawal and inspire your man to be a great partner to you again. So if your man is having a hard time committing to you, he may be doing so as a result of one of these reasons;

1. He is getting all the benefits of being in a romantic relationship without being engaged to you.
So if you are giving him all of you without him being fully committed to you for the long term, you present him with a situation where he sees no tangible reason to take that next step when he is getting all of you free of charge.

2. He is afraid that what happened to his parents might happen to him so he is being extra cautious. Some men want to be in romantic relationships, but when they remember what happened to their parents -- divorce -- they get cold feet.

3. They have not finished sowing their wild oats and committing to you one hundred percent will prevent them from getting their groove on.

4. You are not quite what they have in mind. They are comfortable hanging out with you, but they don't think you are exactly what they are looking for.
It does not mean that you are not good enough for them; it is just that you do not fit the type of woman they are looking for. For example -- some men want freaks in bed -- a woman with a high sex drive.
If you meet their expectations in all the other aspects of life and you just don't have the kind of sex drive they want their future wife to have, they may not want to commit themselves to a long term relationship with you.

5. You do not challenge them enough.
They see you as someone they can pretty much tell anything and get what they want. Men want women they have to work hard to keep.

6. You may have some issues with your weight that they may not be very comfortable with. Sure they seem to enjoy your company, but the weight issue may be keeping them from making you the woman of their dreams.
Most men are simply afraid of the fact that their woman may gain the kind of weight that will end up turning them off down the road.

7. If you have no drive or ambition, some men will not want to commit to you. If they sense that you are not the type that will contribute to the financial well-being of their home, they will not be very motivated to stay with you for the long term.

8. You have a tendency to want to control them. If a man feels that you are the type that will end up wanting to control their life that man will not want to be romantically involved with you for the long term.
He will end up keeping you long enough for him to find a woman that will let him be himself.

9. He may be in the middle of trying to move onto another relationship that he is working on. While he is trying to make sure that the other woman is the one he wants, he will keep you hanging -- he will not commit to you.

10. If a man sees that you are a big flirt, he will not commit to you.
Why? Well, no man wants to be in a relationship with a woman who cannot control their flirtatious ways with other men.

So you see, men have a ton of reasons why they may not want to commit to women.
So if you are not getting the kind of commitment you want from your man, then you need to either change certain things you are doing, or simply let him know what you want and if he does not act on it, then move on.

I will talk to you again soon.Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

How Your Body Is Speaking Alot Than What You're Thinking?Body Language and Attraction !!!

1. Introduction – Where does this all start?

Body language is defined as nonverbal, and mostly unconscious, communication through use of gestures, postures, facial expressions, and alike. To the trained eye, it can reveal the thoughts of any and everyone, as well as their current emotional condition.

Various studies have indicated that communication made between people in face-to-face conversation, consists of a less than 35% verbal component, and an 85% non verbal component.

Examples of this can be seen in every day life; a woman who is conscious of having gained weight about her thighs will smooth her dress down, and a guy who is unhappy will sit down with his arms folded, legs crossed, and a slight frown on his face.

Studies also indicate that women are much more perceptive than men – Hate to break it to you guys, but most of you just aren’t wired that way.

The average woman has over 14 areas of her brain dedicated to communication, whereas the average man will only have between 4and 6. This doesn’t mean that guys have no hope of reading body language accurately; it just means that most men will have to
consciously try to read a person’s body language, whereas most women will automatically do it subconsciously.

This blogpost will help you explore and define the different actions, postures, and gestures of a person who likes you and is seeking your attention. It is important to understand that as well as being able to pinpoint whether a person is using gestures that indicate he or she likes you, it is just as important to be able to spot those gestures that indicate whether a person doesn’t like you – to help you gain a balanced view of their true feelings.

2. Ground Rules for Accurate Body Language Reading

One of the most common mistakes a rookie body language reader will make is to interpret individual gestures in isolation of other gestures.

For example, when someone rubs their left hand on their right arm it can indicate many things – negative feelings, sore arm, or maybe they are just cold – it all depends on the other gestures they are using at the time.

Another key factor is the circumstances under which certain gestures are made. A classic example of this is ‘the woman in the short skirt’,
who sits with her ankles crossed tightly in front of her. Ankle crossing is usually associated with negativity and defense, however a woman with a short skirt may cross her ankles for certain obvious, necessary reasons – i.e. she may not be being negative, she may just be trying to stop people seeing up her skirt.

Remember that practice makes perfect. Body language isn’t always easy to read because there is often so much going on at one time that it’s hard to keep track of it all. My suggestion is that you take 15 minutes each day and dedicate it to reading peoples’ body language .This way in time, reading body language will become second nature.

3. What Do The Eyes Tell Us?

Often described as the windows to the soul, the eyes can give us great insight into the true thoughts and feelings of a person in any situation.

Dilating Pupils

When someone is feeling positive, when they like the company they are keeping, and when they hear something that they agree with, their pupils will dilate. When someone is feeling negative, when they don’t like the company they are keeping, and when they hear something they disagree with, their pupils will contract.

Dilating and contracting pupils are known as ‘micro gestures’ – they cannot be consciously controlled and often go unnoticed by the untrained eye.

Although dilating pupils are often a signal that a person likes you, it is important to read this gesture in context. As we all know, changing light levels also affect how dilated or contracted our pupils become, low light will result in dilated pupils, and bright light will results in contracted pupils. Always look for this micro gesture and evaluate it against other gestures being used by the particular individual.

‘Looking Up’

Used particularly by women, this gesture involves lowering the head at the neck, and looking upwards at the other person. This gesture makes people appear more childlike, and evokes a parenting reaction in both men and women. If someone uses this gesture on you, it is likely that they’d like you to perceive them as ‘cute’ and vulnerable, i.e. in need of care.

Eye Contact

Making lots of eye contact is a way to show interest or respect. The more eye contact a person makes with you, the more that person likes you. Studies also show that even if you aren’t initiating the eye contact, the more you look into someone’s eyes, the more romantic and enjoyable they will find your company.

It is important to remember that making too much eye contact early on in a relationship can sometimes make people feel pressured and insecure. If you are trying to make a good impression on someone, build up a slight rapport first, and then gradually increase the amount of eye contact you give them.

4. The Smile

Smiles are often big indicators of whether or not someone likes you. The key thing most people (men in particular) don’t realize is that there are different types of smile, and that each type of smile can mean a completely different thing. Therefore when someone is smiling at you, it isn’t always a signal to make your move and go talk to them.
Many people use fake smiles to make them appear approachable and submissive. A fake smile can be spotted because it involves only the jaw muscles working, whereas a true smile involves both the jaw muscles and the muscles around the eyes.

A true smile will often produce ‘crow’s feet’ around a person’s eyes, and the person’s teeth are usually visible. A true smile is an indicator that a person likes you, however there are many types of smile that we see from day to day – not all of them mean positive things.

The Tight Lipped Smile

A tight lipped smile is spotted frequently in every day life. It is exactly what it says on the tin – the lips are stretched across the face forming a straight line, and the teeth are not visible. The tight lipped smile is often used by someone who is hiding something that they don’t want to share with you.

It is a favorite used by women who don’t want to show that they don’t like someone. Most men are completely oblivious to the true meaning of this smile.

Sideways Looking Up

This gesture consists of a tight lipped smile coupled with the ‘Looking Up’ gesture from the ‘Eyes’ section in this EBook. Contrary to the meaning of the solitary tight lipped smile, this gesture is used mainly by women to convey that they like someone. This smile invokes the parental, caring instincts in men, who see the smiler as playful, and juvenile.

5. What Hands Say About People

There are 2 basic rules you have to remember when looking at hand gestures: Open palms (when you can see the palms of someone’s hands) suggests openness, honesty, and a liking, whilst closed palms(when you can see the back of someone’s hands) suggests that they may be hiding something, are closed to your ideas, or are feeling like they are in authority.

Classic examples of this are seen in every day life. When people are apologizing, they may say something like “I’m sorry” coupled with presenting their two open palms. The open palmed gesture is like saying “I feel comfortable around you, I like you, I am being honest, and I have nothing to hide.” If you see someone making open palmed gestures at you, take this to heart and read their other gestures to confirm how they are feeling.

Closed palm gestures are used frequently too. For example when a child is lying or concealing something they will hide their hands behind their backs, and when someone doesn’t feel like talking they will put their hands in their pockets – symbolizing that they are ‘closed’ and don’t want to talk.

Again it is important to bear in mind that hands in pockets may also simply mean that the person is cold, or something else. Remember to read all gestures in groups and context.

6. Arm Signals

In body language, the arms are known as barriers that are put up to protect a person from harm. Arms gestures are typically used when a person is lacking in self confidence, feels threatened, or just doesn’t want to hear what you are currently saying.

Arm gestures aren’t a definitive “I don’t like you”, however they do indicate when a person is having negative feelings towards you.
When someone is using repetitive negative arm gestures, coupled with crossed legs or ankles, you’ll know its time to change the conversation.

Crossed Arms over Chest

Both arms are folded across the chest – this is a universal signal used everywhere. Its meaning is clear, “I don’t agree with what you are saying, I am uncertain, I don’t like this situation”.

Self Hug

The self hug is characterized by one arm at a person’s side, and the other arm clutching at their elbow. As children, our parents or carers hugged us when we were feeling sad, uncertain, or tense. The self hug is an attempt to recreate the feeling of security we got from those hugs. A person using this gesture is likely feeling insecure.

Elbow Touching

Everyone likes to be touched. Interestingly, studies shows that people who touch others elbow are more liked than those who do no touching. I say elbows in italics because it is just that, elbows only.

The reason elbow touching is acceptable is because it is far away from the intimate parts of the body; touch a stranger anywhere above or below the elbow and their reaction may be a little different.

It is a fact that girls do more touching than guys, but equally: if a girl or guy touches your elbow it is a sure fire sign that they like you, and that they want your attention.

7. Body Pointing

It is true that the body points to where the mind wants to go. The angles at which people stand when speaking to each other give us clues as to how they feel or where they want to go.

Open Positioning

Just like with palm gestures, when a person likes you or is interested in you, they will adopt an open body position. An open body position can be spotted by looking at the angle of their body relative to yours.
Typically in friendly encounters, the other person’s body will be pointing at an angle 45 degrees relative to yours – subsequently you’ll find that you’re body will be doing the same.

Closed Positioning

Closed positioning is used when two people want a bit of intimacy. Their body angle will change from the ‘friendly’ 45 degrees to 0 degrees, i.e. they will face each other. If someone uses closed positioning with you, it’s a signal that they like you a lot.

Try taking half a step forward, into their intimate zone – if they seem uncomfortable with this or they take a step back, don’t follow.

Leg and Foot Pointing

As stated in the blurb for this section, the body points to where the mind wants to go. Equally true is that a woman’s feet will point to the most ‘attractive’ guy in the room, and vice versa with guys on girls. This same principle applies to leg pointing. If you watch carefully, you’ll see that a guy’s knee will be pointed in the direction of the girl he finds most attractive.
We see these principles every day, for example when someone wants to leave a room, at the very least you’ll see that their feet point towards the exit.

8. General Flirting and Attraction Gestures

When in the company of the opposite sex, the body language of both genders will change dramatically. Men will stand a little taller, no slouching or slumping.

He will also stick his chest out and suck in his stomach – this makes him appear more dominant, and happens automatically around someone he likes or has taken a fancy to.

If a woman takes a liking to the described man, she will respond to his gestures by drawing attention to her breasts, tilting her head, touching her hair, and exposing her wrists –thus making her appear submissive.

There are of course, more deliberate flirting and attraction gestures, but these are gestures made consciously, whereas the ones described above are automatic, and made subconsciously.

9. Attraction Gestures Used by Men

Compared to women, men don’t have a large repertoire of attraction gestures. When a man likes a woman, he will use gestures that emphasize his masculinity.

The common gestures used by men are the expanding of the chest, straightening of the back and pulling the stomach in. He’ll also adjust his clothing or touch his hair.

Men typically use their thumbs to display dominance and masculinity; subsequently a man will tuck his thumbs into his belt, pointing them at his crotch to emphasize his manhood.

10. Attraction Gestures Used by Women

Fortunately for guys, women send out a whole plethora of signs and signals to let him know she’s interested in him. Unfortunately for women, many men are slow on the uptake, completely oblivious to the signs and signals she is sending out. What makes things worse is that women sometimes send out mixed signals, to manipulate men into showing how they feel about her – this often leaves men confused and subsequently, they won’t try to approach her.

When a woman looks around a room and sees a man she’s interested in, she’ll often send a gaze his way until she catches his eye. During this first look she typically holds his eye contact for 23 seconds, and then she looks away. Women may then perform other gestures to show interest in her chosen guy.

A woman will use something known as the ‘Hair Flick’ around a guy she fancies. This gesture involves flicking the hair over her shoulder or away from the face. Even women with short hair use this gesture.

Another gesture to watch out for is the ‘self touch’. When a woman slowly and sensually strokes her thigh or neck she implies that if the man plays his cards right, he may be able to touch her in these ways too.

The limp wrist is seen as a submission signal by many men, and as such is used by women everywhere to make a guy feel that he could dominate her. The limp wrist gesture is often used for maximum effect when fondling a cylindrical object.

A similar gesture to the limp wrist is also used by women to reel in a man. This gesture is known as the ‘exposed neck’, and is exactly as the name says – the woman will tilt her head to one shoulder, exposing her neck to the man. This gesture is seen by men as submissive in much the same way as the limp wrist.

11. Single?

When people see someone they like, sometimes the only thing holding them back from making an approach is the thought that maybe their crush isn’t single. Imagine this scenario:

An attractive girl sees a group of people standing across the room from her at a bar. She has her eye on one of the guys in the group, and uses the gazing technique to let him know she’s interested.

He’s a bit slow on the uptake or maybe just a little nervous, so she decides that maybe its time to go over there and give him an opportunity to talk to her. At the same time this occurs, she notices that her crush is standing next to another attractive girl, who seems to be part of the group.

This throws the question “Are these two together?” So should she stay where she is, or still go over to his area?

Personal Territory

It is a scientific fact that the closer two people are emotionally, the closer they will stand, sit, or lie next to each other. Imagine a bubble around each and every person. This bubble encompasses the person

and a small surrounding area. To that person, everything inside that bubble is ‘theirs’, and is known as their ‘Personal Space’. The size of this personal space varies a little from person to person but doesn’t differ to a great degree.

When two people are very close i.e. Lovers, Parents, Spouses, Close Friends, Children, they will stand for the majority within 1545 centimeters of each other. Only those who are emotionally close to us may enter this space and anyone else who enters may make the person feel intimidated and take a step back from the invader.

Touch and Personal Claim

People touch or lean against something that they feel is theirs. For example a person will sometimes lean on their walls at home, but wouldn’t dream of being invited into a stranger’s house then leaning on their walls. Lovers will hold hands, brush each other’s arms, or ‘tidy’ their partner up by brushing imaginary lint off their partner’s shoulder.

One of the most unmistakable signals made by women to show claim to a man is when she places her flat palm on his chest. Similarly a man will place his hand on his partner’s waist or back.

The key things to remember here is that we touch things that we feel are ours, and we do this in a variety of ways. Watch for the slightest touches, fingers, arms, or even feet.

12. Conclusion

Although body language is universal in its meanings, it really is very easy to get confused or mixed up when reading people’s body language. As mentioned at the beginning of this blogpost, practice makes perfect and the more you practice reading body language, the easier it will become. Always remember to read gestures in groups, and always remember to take into account the environment around the person you are reading.

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I will talk to you again soon. Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

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Build Emotional And Intellectual Attraction With Him

Dear Readers

Imagine attracting a man emotionally and intellectually in such a way that he absolutely can't resist wanting to be around you.

Not only that, but imagine all the obstacles and excuses falling away. No more "I'm too busy" or "I have to work through some issues." The only thing he'll know is his desire to be with you.

In this post I am going to reveal specific ways to subtly communicate to a man the things that will "trigger" that intense level of attraction inside him.

You can literally have a man who wasn't totally "feeling it" for you suddenly take notice and see and recognize the things inside you he simply didn't look for or see before.

Stick here now and turn up the dial on the level of attraction a man feels and experiences with you on both a Physical and Emotional level.

You'll be glad you did. I believe it could bring some amazing changes into your love life with a few small tips.

Now, ladies, let's get down to what's really going on in your heart when it comes to men and relationships.

Here's what I want to know first...Why is it so easy for other women to fall in love with a man, and for their relationships to effortlessly come together and grow...

While you keep attracting all the men out there who are "unavailable" or who seem great at first, but eventually get scared and just can't go "deeper" with you?

Is this "unavailable" thing really a problem so many men are carrying around that gets in the way of love?

Or...Could it also be that you play a part in finding men who are "unavailable"?

Or that you bring about that unavailable response inside a man, a response that even the most "evolved" men have lying dormant inside them?

I want to share with you what could be a new and enlightening perspective on all this..There's an important realization all smart and loving women come to at some point in their love lives.

It's a "light bulb" that suddenly just turns on... and when it does you instantly grow and see things with a new sense of clarity.

Unfortunately, most women only come to this important realization after they've been through the pain and frustration of doing everything they can think of to "revive" their relationship and failing.

I'll tell you what this realization is:It's that when you're with a man who is feeling or acting uncertain with you - even if you could give him an "ultimatum" that would move things ahead to the place in your relationship that you want -

You're in a very dangerous and "weak" position for your relationship. He's not really making that decision based on what he wants or feels.

It's a weak position because you really want and need a man who is truly committed to being with you on a physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual level. Not coerced, not forced, not convinced. committed. Totally and with all his being.

Knowing this, let me ask you...Do men truly commit and choose to love and become loyal, caring, affectionate, etc. just because a woman asks them?

Or does a man need to have his own reasons for being and feeling this way? It's a very important question.

If you've had one or more relationships where you were ready for "more"... but the man you were with was seeming to drag his heels, or just not care about your relationship... and you tried to make it work but it only seemed to backfire – then this question could be one of the most important questions you ever ask yourself.

Seriously.So as a bit of homework, I want you to stop for a second and think about it...Do men truly commit and choose to love and become truly loyal, caring, and affectionate just because a woman asks it of them?

Or...Does a man need to have his own reasons for truly feeling and being this way with you, if it's going to last?

For a deep look inside how men really think about and approach a truly loving and committed relationship with a woman, and how to help a man recognize and do the things that will make your relationship last... you need to read this detailed letter I've posted online right away:

WHERE TO START IN LEARNING ABOUT WHAT MAKES HIM WANT TO COMMIT WITH YOU

Let me be unusually direct with you, for your own good: Have you finally figured out that if you don't know how to get a man to open up and talk and share his deeper thoughts and feelings with you... then it's going to be impossible to make your relationship work?

Lots of women think they get how this works because they talk a lot about what's on their mind.
For most women, this is common Communication Mistake #1 in their relationship:

Sharing your feelings first, and often, because you believe this will somehow get him to share his feelings in return.This is not a great way to get a man to "open up" to you and get in touch with his feelings. This is not his "emotional process."

Especially with a man you're in a relationship with who is already acting "withdrawn" and has shut off his feelings from you.

This kind of more is better approach about talking and sharing your feelings actually works against you more than it helps you with men who are acting uncertain and withdrawn.

Here's the deal:If you know anything about a man, then you should know that to get to know his feelings, then more talk about your feelings is not the answer. Which leads me to common Communication Mistake #2.

Out of all the things that can go wrong in a relationship, I've found one that causes women more pain, frustration, and leads to bad outcomes with the man in their life than anything else...

I've watched it happen over and over with all the women I know - my friends, my sister, co- workers. I also get tons of e-mails from women who read my blog who write to tell me this all- too-familiar story.It's the same issue that keeps popping up at the beginning of their romantic relationships -

EXPECTATIONS.

It's when a woman expects that the relationship will progress to something more committed, but ends up feeling disappointed when she finds out the man doesn't want the same thing.This problem usually plays itself out in one of two ways. I'm sure you'll identify with one (if not both) of these:

SCENARIO #1: You know exactly what you want out of the relationship, but rather than "rock the boat" by having a conversation in which you make your expectations clear, you decide to wait it out in hopes that the man will soon feel the same way and that everything will just "work itself out."

SCENARIO #2: You know exactly what you want out of the relationship but as soon as you get the sense that the guy doesn't share your desires or isn't "on the same page" emotionally, you subtly and unconsciously decide to pretend that you're cool with things just being casual, even though you know you need a lot more to be happy and content.

Predictably, when you find yourself in either of these two scenarios, it becomes a slippery slope toward ultimate relationship disaster.

Here's how this plays out:First- you start feeling unfulfilled, anxious or worried that you're not getting what you want and need from the relationship

Second- you don't know how to say what you're feeling and what you want in a mature, honest way, so you say nothing at all, or you drop "hints" that are misunderstood or ignored

Third- he doesn't change anything about the way he's treating you or the relationship, and you become frustrated or disappointed with because he doesn't really "get" what's missing and what you want from him.

Fourth- your frustration builds up even more and either brings you to an emotionally destructive confrontation with him that freaks him out (like an ultimatum)... or all the silent tension and negative feelings between you make him act distant, disconnected and maybe he even starts losing interest in you

Remember going down this road? Not fun, huh? So what's going on here? And what can you do about it?

Stick with me here, and I'll reveal some basic insights about how to get a man on the "same page" about where your relationship is headed without all the drama, tears and frustration.

"CENTER" YOURSELF FIRST... AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT

What you need to do first, before you do anything else, is get clear about what you want and expect from your love life.You need to be honest with yourself first, before you can be honest with anyone else in your life.

Stop pretending you only want a "casual" fun fling when what you really want is to have a committed, serious relationship that's "going somewhere."

Here's the thing: Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of positive directions to help you find and attract the right situations and people in your life.

But, unfortunately, being clear and honest is not that simple for most women when "the rubber meets the road" in dating and relationships.The reality is, knowing what they want and expect can turn into a source of extreme frustration and anxiety for a lot of women.

Why is that? I'll explain. Expectations can definitely set us off in good directions in our lives... But when we don't feel like we have the control over how to get those expectations met, the "wheels really start to come off the car", so to speak.

To get the inside scoop about how the commitment process works for a man, and how to transition from "casual" to deeply committed in an easy and effortless way, without the usual uncertainty and fear that comes up when you have "The Talk" ... I strongly suggest you check out my blog post.

Ok, so let's get back the concept of expectations and disappointment. A woman may "feel" like the man she's been dating is "The One" and she can see things getting much more committed and serious, but she also senses she doesn't have the right tools or skills to know how to communicate those desires to the man in a positive way.Simply put, the woman is afraid that approaching the guy with a heavy "talk" will either scare him away.

Or...She herself doesn't know what "taking it to the next level" really means to him, why he would want this, and how to go about talking about it in a way that builds trust and makes him want to open up and share.

So she avoids telling him what she's really thinking and feeling about their relationship.Instead, she starts to accept or downplay the little disappointments she feels.

Until one day she finally wakes up and realizes that she doesn't have the kind of relationship she thought she would have with this man, and she's just not happy with herself or the situation.

And sometimes this "awakening" doesn't even happen until after the man cheats or leaves.

Ouch. Hey, I get it. Men can act more than a little insensitive to all of this, and even act like total idiots when it comes to appreciating and respecting the great relationship you already have together.

But hang on for a sec.Let's just simplify things and boil it down to that one thing that is the cause of all the trouble and confusion:

FEAR.

The unfortunate truth is that some women don't want to dig deeper into what a man truly wants because of their own fears.They're afraid of finding out the truth about what a man truly feels about them, and their future together. And the most dreaded fear of all.

Rejection and Abandonment. These two things are so strong and powerful that something fascinating happens in the woman's mind when there's even a small potential for either of these.Their mind starts a cycle of self-deception. Here's how it works...

The fear of pain and loss often leads us to ignore our thoughts and intuition and replace our fearful thoughts with happier thoughts that make us feel comfortable.
It's the mind's "emotional defense mechanism." I know you felt this before.

How many times have you been unsure - deep down - about the man you are seeing, but instead of examining those doubts and finding a way for you to deal with your own feelings, you decided to actually build him up to your friends and family as being a wonderful catch because you didn't want to face some of the problems lurking deep in the back of your mind?

You thought that you'd help things out by telling yourself and having faith in what you wanted to be true.And sometimes, in the process of making up these "new truths" you even start to convince yourself that he's a better guy than he actually is?

Or maybe you've been in a situation where you've gotten no indication that the man you're seeing wants any kind of serious relationship, but you choose to believe that you're building a committed relationship as things slowly and naturally escalate.

Making those assumptions without the basis of direct communication can lead to big trouble down the road.Save yourself the wasted energy and the broken heart.

If you're looking to move past the fear and insecurity you feel but don't want to get in touch with or let anyone know about, then I'd like to help you get in touch and start the "healing" and growth process.

And I'd like to help you quickly get to that great place you know is inside you where love and amazing experiences and emotions simply flow in your life... and draw the right man and the right relationship to you all on their own.

Remember, a man can't read your mind, or know all that's in your heart.And if you're carrying around pain or fear, it's surely getting in the way of him seeing the beautiful and real you underneath that he would want to know and love.

Don't keep a man from seeing the best of the real you that's inside. Make it easy for him – and for you.The best place to get in touch with this for yourself as a woman, and help a man recognize the beauty inside you is right here.



Now, back to working with your own expectations, and being with a man and discovering how he is feeling.Here's a question that's probably already on your mind...

How can you be sure you're involved with the right guy, and know how he's feeling, and if he shares your expectations and desires?The answer is honesty. honesty is one of the most liberating and valuable traits to develop - and it's even more valuable when you're dating.

And guess what else?It feels really good to be completely open and honest.Plus, even when it seems like it would push you and a man apart, it has an amazing way of bringing you closer together and building more love and admiration.

But only if you know how to share your thoughts and honest feelings in a way that serves you and your relationship.Not all communication is equal.

You can mean something, but depending on how you share it with someone... it can either be received as loving and "good"... or as negative and critical.

How is what you are feeling being received?And how does this relate to the way you choose to communicate what you are feeling?

A WAY TO COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS AND DESIRES TO A MAN THAT HE'LL LOVE AND RESPOND TO

Let me tell you something important that you might have gotten mixed up inside your head as a woman in relationships with men who wouldn't listen.It's ok to want what you want and to let a man know it. In fact, it's a must.And it's ok to tell a man that his behavior doesn't match with what you want.

For example...If a woman is honest and up front about what she wants and expects from a man, in a way that says that she's not too attached to the immediate outcome, and she subtly lets him know that he better have his act together or else.

It can turn the usual "teeth pulling" talk into an opportunity for building attraction and a deep source of commitment with a man. But remember...you can't fake it.

You have to be in a place where you truly believe that you'll find and meet your expectations for love and relationships, with or without the man who's there in front of you right then.

No matter how much you love him.That means you have to be in the right frame of mind, and state in your heart, before you start the conversation with him...

But most women aren't in the right frame of mind because they're afraid, and they've "tricked" themselves into thinking that their intimate feelings for a man will scare him off.

WRONG.

It's not honesty that will scare him off, it's the negative, fearful and anxious "vibe" that you unknowingly give off before you finally explode because you can no longer hide how you feel from the man you're with. That's what scares some men off or makes them clam up.

The amazing thing is that men crave honest women who are up front about who they are and what they want in relationships.The key is to know the right way to communicate these things without going over the top.

Remember, if you communicate with a man in a way that assumes, begs, convinces, or makes him think that you're "entitled" to a relationship and a commitment with him, he will never, ever respect you and want to stay for the long-term.

You might get what you want in the short- term if he gives in to your wishes just to avoid a conflict, but trust me, you are headed for much bigger problems in the future.

Or worse, you'll get what you want now, but he's spent the past months - or even worse, years - secretly seething with resentment towards you. Not good.

GIVE HIM A GOOD REASON TO WANT TO COMMIT TO YOU

You just can't "talk" a man into wanting to commit to you by listing all the ways your relationship is special.This is something very important to remember when it comes to men and relationships.You have to give a man the right "reasons" for him to want to and make himself commit.

Becoming deeply committed doesn't often just happen with the passing of time for a man. He won't want to commit "just because" it's been six months or a year (or longer).

He won't commit to you because you explain how you think you're better than all the women he's dated or because you have such a great "connection."

Nope, he's going to commit for his own reasons. So what are these "reasons"?
They're very complex if you don't understand them... but simple at the same time.
A man's reasons for committing, or not committing, are his feelings and emotions. Sounds simple, but it's profound and true.

The "masculine" part of a man has to feel like he is naturally and of his own free will choosing to be with a woman.If this happens, his commitment will usually be strong and lasting.

But if he commits because a woman has been talking to him and analyzing things to show him how a relationship really makes "sense", then his commitment won't be strong... and it probably won't last. See the difference?

A man's motivations for commitment are how a woman makes him feel when he's with her.

If you want him to respond and have committed feelings for you, then you need to do more of the things that will make him feel those feelings of desire, interest and attraction that lead him to want to commit. Still with me here? Good.

In other words, words and conversations are the least powerful and effective tools that a woman has when it comes to love and relationships.

The feelings of attraction that she can create, sometimes without even speaking, are the most powerful.

Now, I was only able to give a few simple tips and insights on how to better connect with a man in a way that will lead you both closer together and help him not only talk, but feel committed.


I will talk to you again soon. Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone. Best of luck in life and love!

Did You Know Why Politicians Cheat On Their Wives

When a cheating politician like “X” makes the headlines, everyone asks: Why would a successful politician like “X” jeopardize his marriage and his career by cheating on his wife?
Politicians cheat on their wives or have extramarital affairs for a variety of reasons. The reasons are almost as varied as the cheating politicians themselves. The following are the most common reasons why politicians, public figures, and other prominent, or rich and powerful men cheat on their wives.

1#. A Sense of Entitlement

Politicians and public figures feel a certain sense of entitlement. They often feel that they can do whatever they want with impunity, and that includes having extramarital affairs. Since they consider themselves to be above the law, they feel they are exempt from the rules that apply to the rest of society.

2#. The Thrill of the Chase

Many cheaters actually thrive on all the excitement associated with having an affair. They get the kind of adrenaline rush from cheating on their mates that they’d get from participating in skydiving or other high risk sports. Cheating politicians are no different. They get a charge from the subterfuge – all the sneaking, lying scheming and other covert activities involved in keeping an extramarital affair hidden from public view.

3#. Ego-Embellishment

Politicians and public figures also cheat for a variety of ego-embellishment reasons. Having an extramarital affair can bolster a cheating politician’s ego in two ways. It can boost a flagging ego, or it can feed the already inflated ego that many politicians have. They mentally congratulate themselves for being so clever, so cunning, so intellectually superior that they’ve outwitted everyone around them by hiding what they’re doing behind closed doors.

4#. Infidelity as a Status Symbol

Many politicians and public figures view having a mistress or patronizing a high-priced call girl or prostitute as a status symbol of some kind. To many rich and powerful men, or other men in high places, the ability to afford a call girl of a certain caliber is the ultimate mark of success.

5#. The Excitement of Engaging in the Forbidden

Just like ordinary men, sometimes cheating politicians engage in infidelity or extramarital affairs solely for the excitement of getting away with doing something that’s forbidden. They revel in the thought that they’re smart enough to elude detection by pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes.

6#. The Knowledge that They Can Get Away With It

The main reason many politicians cheat on their wives and have extramarital affairs is because they are confident that they can get away with it. And countless numbers of them do. If they thought for one minute that they might get caught, most of them would never even take such a chance.


What Can the Wife of a Cheating Politician Do?

Every politician’s wife should familiarize herself with the subtle signs of infidelity, because no matter how carefully a cheating politician tries to cover his tracks, there will always be telltale signs. Since most of the signs of infidelity are subtle, knowing what to look for is the key.


I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

How To Choose “me” Before “we”

How putting your most important partnership first, the one with yourself, can create the relationship of your dreams

If you’re like most people on this planet, whether you’re single, married, or partnered, there’s a good chance that there is something about your relationship that isn’t giving you what you want. There is something more that you think you should be getting from your guy or gal, but no matter how much you talk, fight, complain, cry, wish or bargain, nothing really ever changes.

Maybe it’s the lack of attention from your honey, or perhaps you're the one accused of being “emotionally unavailable.” Maybe it’s the fighting or the feeling of loneliness that’s got you wondering if this is just how relationships are. Or if you’re single, maybe you keep finding yourself longing for that special person to show up and change your life, but you always seem to be “still waiting.”

Whatever the case may be, and there sure are many when it comes to relationships, here’s some good news that has the potential to change everything – and for the better.

Good news #1: You have the power to create the relationship you want, always, anytime, forever.
Good news #2: Your power comes by taking 100% responsibility for yourself and what you’ve created.

Okay, maybe the second part doesn’t seem like such great news, but it is. Most people go through their entire life focused on the wrong pronouns when it comes to their romantic relationships: “If he would just…, she is always…, I wish that we could be more….” How many times have these phrases uttered from your voicebox? So much attention, complaining, and obsessing over what you have no control over, and in turn, a lot of wasted energy directed at changing things that quite frankly you can’t.

Unless want to become a professional “Fixer of Others” or you’re into sacrificing your life’s dreams just to keep your lover around (which by the way is so not recommended,) then you’ve got to get your pronouns straightened out! When it comes to your relationship, the first and foremost pronoun on your mind should always be M-E, because that is where every relationship starts.

The best lives are lived and created from the inside out. If it’s a dynamic, fulfilling, intimate and authentic partnership you seek, you first must create that kind of relationship with yourself.

"Me" Before "we", What It Takes

While there are no cliff notes, pills or five easy steps, the following five must-have promises to yourself will give you the fortitude and commitment needed to choose ME before we:

Know me. Know who you are at your core. Know your dreams, values, gifts and more. Know the life you want to live, regardless of any relationship, societal pressures or family expectations. Know your own emotional holes and heal them. It’s called self-awareness. Build it.

Truthfully me. Get downright real about how honest you are with yourself. Whether it’s avoidance, denial or just flat out delusion, both men and women lie to themselves all the time to keep away the truths that feel too scary. What lies have you told yourself about we, we or we just to keep a relationship alive? Make a vow to always be honest with ME, to never hide from the truth, no matter what. Commit to unwavering, uncompromising truth with yourself.

Love me. Love yourself first and make your happiness a priority. Contrary to popular belief, loving yourself is not selfish. The more you love me the more you can and will love others. Ask yourself often, “Am I happy?” and give an honest reply. If the answer is no more often than not, take responsibility and change your situation. Take a vow to make your happiness a priority and to make decisions that reflect the love you have for you.

Trust me. When that inner voice of intuition talks to you, listen! Stop taking the advice of your voices of fear, the “shoulds,” and the over-rationalized “musts.” They never have your best interests at heart. Your intuition is always on your side. Make a promise to trust it and act on it.

Honor me. Make the choice to no longer settle for less than you truly want in your relationships. Choose to believe that what you want is possible, and do what it takes to create it.

The truth is, we all have the relationship that we choose. It may not be the one we want, but whether we like it or not, we’ve created it. If you want something different, the only place to start is with ME. It might not be the easiest path, but it will always be the most fulfilling.



I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

Thanks!

Powerful Secrets of Sexual Pleasure

Does your partner complain that you are not a good lover? Do you want to improve your lovemaking technique? If you want to make your partner purr with pleasure, you must:

1#. Learn what your partner enjoys. Just because you read about a great technique in an article or book doesn’t mean that it’s something your partner is going to like. You can ask your partner for feedback during or after lovemaking to see what they liked best about your approach.

2#. Remember what pleases your partner. Once you have feedback, stick it into your “sexual Rolodex” (or your favorite mental memory device) and use it again in the future. For example, if your partner goes crazy when you use your nails lightly on their inner thighs, definitely try that again when you’re in bed next time.

3#. Drop your inhibitions. When you hold back because you’re afraid of making a mistake or trying something new, you make your partner nervous, too. Then you feel their nervousness, and it just adds to your inhibitions. Stop the cycle. Whatever you want to do, try it! If it doesn’t please your partner, don’t get defensive, just listen and remember (see #2, above).

4#. Try different types of touch. Has your partner ever complained that your touch is too heavy or too light? Or boring and repetitive? Try using one finger, your thumb, the back of your hand, your nails. Bring in some soft fabric, fur, or a feather to try, too.

5#. Watch your partner’s responses. If you’re doing something your partner likes, your partner’s facial expression should change to one of interest, excitement, pleasure, or even bliss. Your partner may moan, groan, or sigh. If your partner’s facial expression is flat or they are silent, change it up. And if your partner doesn’t give you this kind of feedback, encourage them to do so.

6#. Engage all your senses during lovemaking. Your partner’s body is a marvelous feast spread before you. Let your partner know how good they look, smell, feel, and taste. When you approach your partner on all these levels, it’s simply irresistible.

It isn’t difficult to be a great lover. You just need to be willing to try things, keeping the techniques that turn your lover on and discarding the ones that turn them off. As always, that means good verbal—and nonverbal—communication. Repeat as needed (or wanted).


I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!

Thanks!

How to Stay Sexually Connected

It’s always easy to find reasons to avoid sex: you’re exhausted, not in the mood. There are a thousand things running through your head that merely thinking about it drains the life out of you; or you just don’t feel sexy anymore. Having sex is simply out of the question to a lot of women who is recovering from childbirth, dealing with hormonal imbalances, or fighting with a spouse. Is there a way to ignite passion amidst the stresses of everyday life? Can one stay sexually connected during unsexy times? Simple arguments and misunderstandings can make one lose interest in making love.

However, it is crucial to sustain a couple’s sex life. When a couple makes love after an argument, both are easily pacified, thus, there is less damage to the relationship. Body language that says I’m sorry (such as an imploring look, a smile or even a tender touch) should not be ignored. Humour and laughter is a potent aphrodisiac—tickle each other while kissing or play-wrestle your spouse. It may feel awkward getting sexually connected after a fight, especially when you start to mentally go over the problem. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the moment—save the discussion for later.

Giving birth is no easy feat, but what ensues after childbirth is even more challenging. Taking care of a baby round the clock is exhausting physically and emotionally, so when you hit the bed, all you want to do is sleep. Many women also say that their libido is very low at this time and that they don’t feel sexually connected at all. Physiologically speaking, this is totally normal. A woman’s estrogen levels are extremely low after childbirth, and there is an increase in prolactin, which causes a decrease in the production of lubrication that makes sexual intercourse comfortable. Every woman heals differently; some resume sex after six weeks post birth, while others may take up to a year before their sex life goes back to normal.

A lot of couples complain that there isn’t enough time for each other during this adjustment phase of having a baby in the family. It is important for both partners to talk about their feelings—a husband may feel rejected if the woman isn’t up to having sex, so it’s important for her to explain the physical discomfort or anxieties that may hold her back. Hugs and kisses can do a lot to express love and affection, as well as back massages. After all, being intimate doesn’t always spell s-e-x. Perimenopausal or menopausal symptoms – hot flashes, weight gain, difficulty sleeping, short-term memory loss and decreased sex drive—can make a woman kiss her sex life goodbye.

On the upside, this can be a liberating time for a woman, because the danger of getting pregnant without birth control is suddenly eliminated. It is very important to be honest with one’s husband—warn him that there will be good days, and there will be days when he won’t be getting any. Make him understand that it’s not about him, and shouldn’t take it personally when you’re not in the mood. Vaginal dryness can cause painful sex, but there are water-based lubricants such as KY Jelly, as well as vaginal estrogen therapy or hormone replacement therapy if needed. Exercise was also found to be directly related to ease of arousal.

Perimenopausal women who were effortlessly aroused also exercised regularly as they aged. Contrary to popular belief, men aren’t always “ready to go”. A man’s robust libido may decline due to a number of reasons. This decline in his desire shouldn’t be taken personally and treated as a crisis. Talk about it but in a non-accusatory tone. He may not even be aware of it—a check-up should confirm if there is a thyroid problem, low testosterone level or increased prolactin (hormone that contributes to sexual dysfunction).

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Tips On How You Can Seduce Your Wife

Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge—but can you think of a better one to tackle?

As any sex therapist will tell you, there really are differences between men and women when it comes to sex. As long as a man is still in good health, he generally needs little priming to get ready for sex. While that doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy foreplay, just the thought of making love is enough to make him ready.

Women need more. They generally express the need to know that sex means more than just a physical release. Yes, physical release is good for women, but for women orgasm comes more easily and may even feel better if sex has some emotional meaning.

Sometimes men really don’t seem to understand how to make sex meaningful to their wife. Because a man sees the act of sex as an expression of love, he may not get what he needs to do to create trust and intimacy.

That is where the art of seduction comes in. To seduce someone means to entice them, to make the idea of sex very appealing. Seduction requires charm. You need to be clever, to make yourself not only attractive to your wife, but to attract her to you as well.

One way to seduce your wife is to let her know how much you love her. And I don’t just mean her chest or tush. I mean all of her. Tell her how much you love her face, her hands, the curve of her calf. Tell her you love her kindness and her laugh. Notice the things that made you first fall in love with her, and tell her that you still notice.

Another way to seduce her is to add some romance to your day. This is true most especially on a day that you are feeling in the mood for sex. You needn’t make a big gesture or spend a lot of money. Leave a little note someplace only she will see it (her makeup drawer, on top of her handbag). Or pour her a glass of wine or sparkling water and bring her a plate of cheese and fruit when she comes home at the end of the day.

The third important thing to remember if you want to seduce your wife is to start making love by touching her hands, arms, face, neck, and back before you move onto her more erotic areas. Most women need to be warmed up a bit before they like being touched in an intimate way. Touching and kissing your wife tenderly will show that you love and respect this about her.

These things may be small, but they are very important. And you can’t just do them once and expect her to be enchanted with you forever. You need to repeat, repeat, repeat. But not the exact same thing! Following a formula will just seem forced. You need to seduce your wife with love, from the heart.

Just because you’ve been together awhile doesn’t mean you should give up on doing all the things lovers do. You can get, and keep, your wife’s interest in sex if you know how to show her that you still love her and that sex means something to you, too.

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Best Ways To Break Off An Affair

Most people at some point of time have been in relationship when they meet someone who looks like they would be "better" partner. However, marriage includes the expectation of primariness: the assurance of both partners to keeping each other the most important person in their life. Usually couples agree that primariness will include the expectation in which partners promise to have sexual relations with each other only.

Rather than being upset when you see someone who looks more appropriate to you, it is typically a sign that you need to pay more attention to your current relationship. As well, it is likely you or your partner is at a change phase in your relationship. For example, a new job, birth of a child, children launched, or return to school. Affairs are most likely to happen only during these phases in a couple's life cycle.

Sometimes, married couples may fall out of love and grow to dislike one another more than they care to admit. Nevertheless, for a variety of reasons (money, kids, religious beliefs, etc), they remain husband and wife in theory. These types of marriages may certainly lead one or both spouses to seek the comfort of another adult and cheat on one another.

In a troubled relationship, the lure of seeking solace in another often becomes tempting. Simple friendships or working arrangements with the opposite sex can easily turn into a full-blown affair. Despite a spouses attempt to prevent this type of relationship from becoming an extramarital affair, they may find their feelings too powerful to deny and thus give in to their desires to be with this new person. If you are involved in an affair and can’t seem to break it off, the following are a few tips to help you break free.

According to an affair poll of over 500 women conducted by WomanSavers.com, over 30% of women engaged in an affair said that the affair lasted more than a year, with approximately 25% saying their affair lasted less than 6 months.

To gather statistics on affairs is really a difficult task. The results generally varies due to the type of group being studied, the reporting method, and because we know people are lying, even when the research is anonymous. The percentage of those who say they had affairs ranges from 25% to 75% of all males and 15% to 60% of all women.

Here are some of the best ways to break off an affair

• Keep it short. Don’t go into in-depth details about why the affair can’t continue. The simpler and cleaner the break-up is, the better.
• Tell them in person and in public area where a scene is less likely to take place.
• Make it final. Don’t allow your affair partner to think there will be a chance of getting back together.
• Be kind. You want to move past this so you can work on your existing relationship or move on.

Breaking off an affair can be just as difficult as breaking up a marriage depending on if there are emotions involved and how long it has gone on. However, having an affair is never fair to the partner left in the dark. If you have any doubts on breaking off your affair, simply remember the golden rule, “due unto others as you would have them do unto you.”


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The "Must" Reasons Why Men Have Affairs

There are many different kinds of reasons for men to have affairs. Forces such as sexual attraction, companionship, excitement and curiosity can pull men toward affairs. Affairs are often glamorized in movies, romance novels, soap operas, and TV shows. Public disclosure of public figures having affairs is headline news because people are fascinated and titillated by hearing about others' affairs. Men are bombarded with images of women as sex objects in advertising and marketing campaigns. Over and over, the message to men is that the good life includes a procession of sexy women in their lives. Women inadvertently buy into this image and struggle to achieve it. The lack of good sex education and the existence of sexual taboos combine to make it difficult to talk honestly about sex.

Truly speaking, women seem to be better cheaters than men: they are better at keeping their affairs under wraps and generally have an agenda for their infidelity. Some affairs occur because the cheating parties truly want to leave their established partner, particularly when they are married. However, very few married men leave their wife for their mistress! That is, unless their wife finds out and leaves. The Bureau of Justice Statistics states that on an average, there are more than three women who gets murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day. If your partner is not willing to seek help for his abusive behavior, your only option is to leave or get divorced.

According to a poll of over 400 women conducted by WomanSavers.com, love and intimacy is the number one reason why women have affairs, followed by sex, money and finally excitement. The differences in why women and men have affairs are varied with women seeking emotional fulfillment and most men seeking sexual fulfillment.

The top 10 reasons why men have affairs include:

1. More sex (sometimes due to lack of sex in their relationship)
2. Sexual variety through different partners or different sexual experiences
3. Too boost their ego to feel special or still attractive to the opposite sex
4. For the thrill of the chase
5. Opportunistic sex (if the opportunity occurs, they can’t pass it up)
6. To sabotage their current relationship
7. Revenge (to get back at their partner for one reason or another)
8. A feeling of entitlement (the belief they are entitled because they work hard or are the bread winner)
9. Sexual addiction
10.To escape

There is no such thing as a perfect affair. Keeping an on-going affair is a juggling act of covering up lies, explaining time away, and dealing with associated guilt feelings. The cheater becomes consumed by guilt and sometimes lashes out even more at their partner. If you are involved in an affair, respect yourself and your partner enough to get out.


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Why Bad Guys Cheat And Good Guys Don't ?

One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating guy. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why guys cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.

According to Womansavers.com, 22% of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70% of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3% of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

At what point a woman believes her partner is cheating on her, is largely dependent on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities, might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

Before answering the question ‘why do guys cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

Some guys are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard pressed to form a lasting relationship but it is usually apparent from the onset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in on. For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more.

One of the most important factors that determines the difference between a good and bad man regarding fidelity is to take a look at his parents. Did he come from a loving family with monogamous parents as his example? It is a well-known fact that children learn by example, even if it is subconscious. Boys who are aware of their father’s infidelity, tend to eventually accept this behavior as normal, thus repeating the adulterous behavior as adults. The same goes for boys who witness their mother having affairs.

So why do women continue to be attracted to the “bad” guys who cheat? Perhaps it is because they secretly wish to tame or change them. It is so important for women to understand that if a guy cheats on a woman, there is a very good possibility he will cheat on you. However, women frequently think that they will be the exception or that the man cheated because he had good reasons. Men always have good reasons for cheating so ladies, do yourself a favor and pass up the bad cheating guys for the good faithful guys. He may not always be as exciting and dangerous, but love and trust always outweigh danger and excitement in the long run.

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Are You Jealousy Person ?

Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be . . . but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.

Jealousy is something that can completely destroy your relationships. Where does it come from and what can you do about it? In relationships, there are four possibilities: neither of you are jealous, you are jealous of your partner but your partner is not jealous, your partner is jealous but you are not, or both of you are jealous. The first scenario poses no stress for the relationship, while the last three do.

You are Jealous and Your Partner Isn’t:

If you are jealous of your partner and he or she is not plagued by jealousy, then you feel you can’t trust the one you love. You are suspicious of his or her activities and you make accusations—either out loud or in your own mind. You have no trust and afford your partner very little, if any, privacy.

Your partner trusts you. He or she does not grill you with 10,000 questions about whom you were with and where you’ve been. You most likely interpret this as evidence of how little he or she cares about you when in actuality, the opposite is true.

Your Partner is Jealous but You Aren’t

Your partner is driving you crazy! He or she is smothering you. You love your partner but you can’t seem to be able to breathe. He or she wants to be with you all the time, is constantly asking you questions about who you are with and what you do, may want to check your cell phone and email to learn who you are communicating with, and generally doesn’t trust you out of his or her sight.

The first thing you must realize is that your partner may never change. I have seen couples who thought if they only got married, then the jealous partner could let go of his or her insecurity. This insecurity follows a person regardless of his or her marital status. If a person has a burning desire to change his or her jealous demeanor, then he or she must set about completing the necessary work to accomplish that but a marriage license is not the cure to jealousy.

So ask yourself, if your partner never changes and continues these jealous behaviors forever, is he or she still the person you want to be with? If the answer is yes, then you need to discover coping methods of being able to handle the constant suspicion and intrusions into your life. If the answer is no, then you need to devise a plan for ending, or at least diminishing the time you invest in the relationship.

Both of You are Jealous

In this situation, I would assess that both of you are functioning from either the need for power or the need for survival. You are either scared of being alone or you want to control the behavior of your loved one—neither of which is particularly healthy.

Your relationship could potentially last a long time. Since both of you are operating from the same place, you would not likely recognize the dysfunction. However, if you want more from your relationship, then you need to be able to visualize what life would be like if you were in a relationship with your partner or someone else and trust existed between you. You would need to recognize that there is something better and consciously set out to engage in behavior that will attract that kind of trust into your life.

When There’s been Cheating in the Past

If part of the problem is that one or both of you have already been unfaithful in the past, then some legitimate trust issues exist. If you were the one who cheated, attempt to understand your partner’s insecurity and suspicions at least initially. I have recommended that the person who has cheated allow his or her life to be an open book to his or her partner. Allow him or her access to your comings and goings to help him or her develop that security in your relationship again.

If you were the one whose partner cheated, then you are not off the hook. If your partner affords you the opportunity to really know what he or she is doing at all times in an attempt to reestablish trust between you, then you need to equally cooperate in your attempt to regain trust. You must be open to the idea that your partner is making amends and is truly sorry for his or her indiscretion. You need to give up your desire to punish or make him or her pay, and really get down to the business of rebuilding your relationship. Let go of your resentment and move forward.

Real love does not operate on the scarcity principle. In order to receive love, you must willingly give it. If you love someone and you want peace of mind, trust is the only way to go. If you later learn that your partner was unfaithful to you, then you have a decision to make but the surest way to ensure your partner cheats is to continue to accuse him or her of it.

Jealousy is like a cancer invading your relationship. It has the potential of being lethal. Do not allow jealousy to erode the trust, love and respect of your relationship.

Extending your faith and trust is a gift you give the person you love. If he or she is a person of honor, the gift will be protected and well cared for. If he or she is not, it will not be long and you will discover your partner’s true character. And when you do, you will have a decision to make. In the meantime, live in trust.

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Sex Mistakes to Avoid if You Want to Be a Better Lover

There is no doubt that many of us today would think that with all the information there is about good sex more people would be better at pleasing their partners when they make love. Sadly, a lot of folks pay little attention to how they can become a better lover.

It isn’t that difficult to learn how to make love. Developing a good technique takes patience and practice. But it also means avoiding several things when you get into the bedroom for sex. Believe it or not, these are actual problems clients tell sex therapists that their partners do that annoys them.

1#. Waiting until your partner is trapped under the sheets to initiate sex. Really, now, do you lack so much sexual imagination that the only way you can get your partner to have sex with you is to wait until you are in bed and your partner has nowhere else to go? Let your partner know you’re thinking about making love to them by giving them some extra hugs and kisses, telling them what they mean to you, and pitching in to help so that your partner isn’t dead tired at night when you want to make love.

2#. Taking less than ten minutes for foreplay. There’s nothing wrong with quick sex, but expecting your partner to be ready just because you are is a little silly. If you’re partner is willing to make love, give them a warm-up. Kiss, lick, suck, and nuzzle your partner in all the places that make them melt. It doesn’t take that much effort to get your partner excited about sex.

3#. Forgetting what your partner likes in bed. Look, part of way to be a great lover is not to rely on what you think your partner might like, but to find out what really makes them hot and then doing it again. Even bigger mistake? Doing things your partner definitely dislikes. You need to develop a sort of mental sex Rolodex and remember what your partner enjoys.

4#. Annoying your partner with stupid sex jokes. Hey, if you’re both in the mood for some giggles, then joke away. But if your partner has told you about a need to be held close and loved up, then ditch the dirty jokes as foreplay.

5#. Not taking the time to learn lovemaking techniques. Just because you’ve been with your partner awhile, doesn’t mean your lovemaking techniques are topnotch. There’s always something new to learn—a new touch, a new kiss, a new position, a new fantasy. If you think sex has gotten a little stale, take some responsibility and learn something new.

6#. Jumping up immediately after sex to do something else. Is there anything tackier than finishing up sex and getting up to change the laundry from the washer to the dryer or letting Fido out for the night? Make sure your partner knows that you appreciated the time you spent making love before moving on to real life matters.

7#. Not taking a shower or brushing your teeth before you make love. ‘Nuf said. Unless your partner likes truly “dirty” sex, clean up your act before you make a move.

Sex isn’t rocket science. It doesn’t take a genius to be a good lover. Just by avoiding the above listed mistakes, your partner will think you’re really good in bed.

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