There's another insidious thing masquerading as relationship advice for women and that is, women's magazines. Women's magazines teach women how to look, be and act around men and only serve to impress other women, propagate poor self-image, and show women how to "hook" a man by being everything but themselves.
Sadly, most of the relationship tips that women's magazines give were written by women for women and they don't enable women to understand men at all.
What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just by being yourself?
Yes, you don't have to be anything but yourself. There's just one condition. You also have to understand what a man wants.
I will talk to ya again soon.
Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Will Giving a Man What He Wants Get You What You Want?
Here's the big secret. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.
Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they? There's so much more to making a man feel good than meets the eye.
Seduction is sure mental sorcery:While a woman's sexual skills and good cooking are always appreciated by men, seduction is sure mental sorcery.
So how much is all this worth to you?If you're a single woman, what is the value of becoming totally irresistible to men, attracting the man of your dreams, making him fall in love with you, marry you and give you everything your heart desires?
If you're a married woman, how would your life improve when you reignite the spark in your marriage, make your husband fall in love with you all over again, enjoy deeper intimacy with him, and have an enduring marriage?
What is the value of not wasting any more time trying to figure men out, and read them like a book instead or having the ability to easily diffuse quarrels, arguments, and other relationship troubles as they occur, and be able to effortlessly influence your man to your way of thinking?
What price can you put on learning to become a woman that men adore and never want to leave?
I will talk to ya again soon.
Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they? There's so much more to making a man feel good than meets the eye.
Seduction is sure mental sorcery:While a woman's sexual skills and good cooking are always appreciated by men, seduction is sure mental sorcery.
So how much is all this worth to you?If you're a single woman, what is the value of becoming totally irresistible to men, attracting the man of your dreams, making him fall in love with you, marry you and give you everything your heart desires?
If you're a married woman, how would your life improve when you reignite the spark in your marriage, make your husband fall in love with you all over again, enjoy deeper intimacy with him, and have an enduring marriage?
What is the value of not wasting any more time trying to figure men out, and read them like a book instead or having the ability to easily diffuse quarrels, arguments, and other relationship troubles as they occur, and be able to effortlessly influence your man to your way of thinking?
What price can you put on learning to become a woman that men adore and never want to leave?
I will talk to ya again soon.
Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Why Men Withdraw from Relationships After Honeymoon?
When someone we care about rejects our efforts to become closer to them, it’s not a fun feeling.But an even worse feeling than that is not knowing why? You meet a guy. You go out. It's clear that you like each other, and you begin to open up more and more. Then, out of nowhere, he withdraws. Sound familiar?
Does this scenario sound familiar? You meet a guy. You go out. It’s clear that you like each other, and you begin to open up more and more. Things get increasingly serious, and you make yourself emotionally vulnerable.
You feel like the relationship is progressing. Then, out of nowhere, he withdraws. You can feel it in the way he treats you, in the length of time it takes him to return your calls, in the excuses he’s using, in the difference in his touch. He’s withdrawing.
Pretty soon, you find yourself unsure about how to respond. You want more from the relationship, but you’re nervous about asking for it, because you don’t want to push him even further away, making him withdraw even more. You’re not alone. This is an old story that many people--both men and women--have been through.
There are any number of reasons why a man withdraws, and most of these can be categorized under three main headings. Let’s talk about these reasons a man pulls away, and how you can respond if he does.
He’s Lost Interest
This is pretty much the worst-case scenario for your relationship: when your man withdraws because he’s become disenchanted with how things are going between you two. Maybe he’s found some fundamental incompatibilities between you, or maybe he’s simply decided that you aren’t exactly what he’s looking for. He might have even met someone else who has captured his interest.
Whatever the specific reason, if your man is withdrawing because he’s doubting the future of your relationship, you probably ought to begin to face the fact that this may not be your one, true, love. We’re not saying it’s impossible for a guy to overcome his doubts about you or the relationship once they crop up. But usually, once those doubts become so strong that it makes him pull away and become distant, it’s often too late to salvage something strong and long-lasting.
He feels Rushed
This scenario isn’t nearly as bad as the first one. Yes, it has the potential to doom the relationship. But there are steps you can take to turn things around.
Your man may be withdrawing because he feels like you’re pressuring him to move the relationship along more quickly than he’s comfortable with. If this is the case, there’s a clear and obvious step you need to take: back off. Give him space, and allow things to progress at a speed that’s more comfortable for him. You might even think about directly communicating with him, and explaining that you didn’t mean to put pressure on him, and that you’re happy to allow things to progress more slowly. Offering space won’t always turn things around, but it often will.
We know it’s hard, when you really like someone, to pull back instead of rushing forward with everything you feel in your heart. But if your man is withdrawing because he’s feeling rushed, then you have to let things calm down and create the opportunity for the relationship to develop at a pace that feels good for both of you. (And keep in mind, playing hard-to-get is a tried and true strategy that’s been effective for centuries!)
He’s afraid of commitment
This third reason a man withdraws is likely the most hopeful one for you. Your man may be withdrawing based on fear. Maybe he’s been hurt in the past. Or maybe the idea of commitment simply petrifies him.
The good news is that whatever fear is motivating your significant other to pull away from you, it can often be overcome. If you two can discuss whatever the issue is and begin to deal with it, there’s a good chance that you can then begin to create something real and lasting together.
Yes, there’s a chance that he’s simply unwilling – or unable – at this point to move forward towards a committed relationship. But often, fears crop up in a relationship because a person wants to deal with those doubts and move past them.
If you can be a steady, reassuring partner that isn’t pushing too hard, while he deals with what’s scaring him, you two just might build a foundation together that will lead to years and years of happiness.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Does this scenario sound familiar? You meet a guy. You go out. It’s clear that you like each other, and you begin to open up more and more. Things get increasingly serious, and you make yourself emotionally vulnerable.
You feel like the relationship is progressing. Then, out of nowhere, he withdraws. You can feel it in the way he treats you, in the length of time it takes him to return your calls, in the excuses he’s using, in the difference in his touch. He’s withdrawing.
Pretty soon, you find yourself unsure about how to respond. You want more from the relationship, but you’re nervous about asking for it, because you don’t want to push him even further away, making him withdraw even more. You’re not alone. This is an old story that many people--both men and women--have been through.
There are any number of reasons why a man withdraws, and most of these can be categorized under three main headings. Let’s talk about these reasons a man pulls away, and how you can respond if he does.
He’s Lost Interest
This is pretty much the worst-case scenario for your relationship: when your man withdraws because he’s become disenchanted with how things are going between you two. Maybe he’s found some fundamental incompatibilities between you, or maybe he’s simply decided that you aren’t exactly what he’s looking for. He might have even met someone else who has captured his interest.
Whatever the specific reason, if your man is withdrawing because he’s doubting the future of your relationship, you probably ought to begin to face the fact that this may not be your one, true, love. We’re not saying it’s impossible for a guy to overcome his doubts about you or the relationship once they crop up. But usually, once those doubts become so strong that it makes him pull away and become distant, it’s often too late to salvage something strong and long-lasting.
He feels Rushed
This scenario isn’t nearly as bad as the first one. Yes, it has the potential to doom the relationship. But there are steps you can take to turn things around.
Your man may be withdrawing because he feels like you’re pressuring him to move the relationship along more quickly than he’s comfortable with. If this is the case, there’s a clear and obvious step you need to take: back off. Give him space, and allow things to progress at a speed that’s more comfortable for him. You might even think about directly communicating with him, and explaining that you didn’t mean to put pressure on him, and that you’re happy to allow things to progress more slowly. Offering space won’t always turn things around, but it often will.
We know it’s hard, when you really like someone, to pull back instead of rushing forward with everything you feel in your heart. But if your man is withdrawing because he’s feeling rushed, then you have to let things calm down and create the opportunity for the relationship to develop at a pace that feels good for both of you. (And keep in mind, playing hard-to-get is a tried and true strategy that’s been effective for centuries!)
He’s afraid of commitment
This third reason a man withdraws is likely the most hopeful one for you. Your man may be withdrawing based on fear. Maybe he’s been hurt in the past. Or maybe the idea of commitment simply petrifies him.
The good news is that whatever fear is motivating your significant other to pull away from you, it can often be overcome. If you two can discuss whatever the issue is and begin to deal with it, there’s a good chance that you can then begin to create something real and lasting together.
Yes, there’s a chance that he’s simply unwilling – or unable – at this point to move forward towards a committed relationship. But often, fears crop up in a relationship because a person wants to deal with those doubts and move past them.
If you can be a steady, reassuring partner that isn’t pushing too hard, while he deals with what’s scaring him, you two just might build a foundation together that will lead to years and years of happiness.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Why Men Pull Away After First Date With You?
Why Men Pull Away After First Date With You but move on with others in relationship?
It's a frustrating idea for many women, but you've seen it happen time and again. A man meets a woman, and they start dating. The relationship grows deeper fairly quickly until it culminates in the bedroom.
But just as everything seems to be going incredibly well, the man abruptly starts being distant as soon as the woman discusses getting into a deeper relationship.
The relationship then dwindles into nothingness, leaving the woman feeling bitter and betrayed. Have you ever slept with a great man, only to watch him pull away once you start talking about deeper emotions? You may be tempted to think that all men simply have only one thing on their minds when it comes to dating.
Well, it's hardly that simple - the way men think can be just as complex as yours. The big differences lie in men's different approach to love and how they view it.
#1). Men are in the dating scene for the challenge. There's a reason why men are so fond of vigorous sports, violent movies, and fast-paced video games - they like the thrill of being faced with a challenge, of rising to the occasion, of overcoming the odds, and finally revel in the joy of victory.
It doesn't matter if the victory is lonesome or quiet or strange - the feeling of accomplishment reinforces the notion that he is, in fact, a winner.
So when it comes to dating, men are out to look for a challenge - they're looking to rock a woman's world. And at the same time, they want their women to be completely taken by their "manliness."
I know what you're thinking - if this is what men want after all, then why do they seem to not want it anymore once you've completely fallen for him, even to the point that you've consented to have sex with him?
#2). Men love the chase. When you start to show him that you're virtually all about him, it gives him the idea that he's already won you over. The victory is his. The challenge is over. The chase is finished.
So what's a man to do? He'll feel the need to find another challenge to pursue. And if you talk to him about committing to a more serious relationship, you're effectively asking him to give up looking for challenges - and that idea scares him to death. That is why men pull away after sleeping with you.Now here's the good news.
#3). My third point is that you can control him. Men love the chase because they like feeling the attraction to a woman. Just as he'd like to rock your world, he'd appreciate it just as much if you rocked his. That's what keeps men from pulling away - if he finds himself attracted to you, you can bet he'll stick around for much, much longer.
So how can you do this?To keep it simple, don't give yourself to him too quickly. By that, I mean don't sleep with him so early in the relationship. Use the time to make him feel attracted to you, because it's precisely this attraction that triggers his emotional desire to win you and be with you for a longer term.
If you can't make a man feel attracted to you, then no amount of talking, begging, or sex will change his mind.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
It's a frustrating idea for many women, but you've seen it happen time and again. A man meets a woman, and they start dating. The relationship grows deeper fairly quickly until it culminates in the bedroom.
But just as everything seems to be going incredibly well, the man abruptly starts being distant as soon as the woman discusses getting into a deeper relationship.
The relationship then dwindles into nothingness, leaving the woman feeling bitter and betrayed. Have you ever slept with a great man, only to watch him pull away once you start talking about deeper emotions? You may be tempted to think that all men simply have only one thing on their minds when it comes to dating.
Well, it's hardly that simple - the way men think can be just as complex as yours. The big differences lie in men's different approach to love and how they view it.
#1). Men are in the dating scene for the challenge. There's a reason why men are so fond of vigorous sports, violent movies, and fast-paced video games - they like the thrill of being faced with a challenge, of rising to the occasion, of overcoming the odds, and finally revel in the joy of victory.
It doesn't matter if the victory is lonesome or quiet or strange - the feeling of accomplishment reinforces the notion that he is, in fact, a winner.
So when it comes to dating, men are out to look for a challenge - they're looking to rock a woman's world. And at the same time, they want their women to be completely taken by their "manliness."
I know what you're thinking - if this is what men want after all, then why do they seem to not want it anymore once you've completely fallen for him, even to the point that you've consented to have sex with him?
#2). Men love the chase. When you start to show him that you're virtually all about him, it gives him the idea that he's already won you over. The victory is his. The challenge is over. The chase is finished.
So what's a man to do? He'll feel the need to find another challenge to pursue. And if you talk to him about committing to a more serious relationship, you're effectively asking him to give up looking for challenges - and that idea scares him to death. That is why men pull away after sleeping with you.Now here's the good news.
#3). My third point is that you can control him. Men love the chase because they like feeling the attraction to a woman. Just as he'd like to rock your world, he'd appreciate it just as much if you rocked his. That's what keeps men from pulling away - if he finds himself attracted to you, you can bet he'll stick around for much, much longer.
So how can you do this?To keep it simple, don't give yourself to him too quickly. By that, I mean don't sleep with him so early in the relationship. Use the time to make him feel attracted to you, because it's precisely this attraction that triggers his emotional desire to win you and be with you for a longer term.
If you can't make a man feel attracted to you, then no amount of talking, begging, or sex will change his mind.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Things Women Do That Drive Men Away
Many women, without even knowing it, are driving the men who love them right out of their lives. For the most part, women aren't getting information about men straight from the source. They're asking other women, listening to so-called relationship experts, and believing statistics. While those sources may be helpful and provide some information, nothing is as accurate as asking men what they think and feel. This list of ten things women do that drive men away was compiled from informal interviews with real everyday men. None of these men are "experts" from academia. None of them are sociologists, psychologists, or relationship experts. They're just regular guys: a computer technician, a personal fitness trainer, a mail courier, a college student, an entrepreneur, a corporate executive, a sanitation worker, a police officer, a mechanic, and an attorney.
When I got the guys together, the first question I asked was "What are some of the things women do that drive men away?" I asked them to be blunt and candid in their responses, but I made it clear that I wasn't looking for a list of mean-spirited complaints. Instead, I wanted to compile a list of ten things that men wished women knew. A list that would bridge the gap between men and women. I told them the purpose of this list was to improve communication, avoid misunderstanding, and expose any "taboo" issues that need to be brought into the open. In that spirit, we began our discussion. As I sat and talked with the guys, most of their answers kept coming back to the ten areas explained below.
Acting sweet to get a man,then changing
"I don't know why women act so sweet during dating and change completely when they know they've got you."
She used to go to bed in a naughty nightie and didn't care about sweating the curls out of her head. Now she goes to bed with a head full of rollers and a face covered with Noxzema. When they were dating, she batted her eyes, spoke softly, and always looked sexy. But now that she's got him, that all changed. The gently batting eyes and shy smiles have been replaced with frowns, pursed lips, and shrill tones. No more sexy clothes. Now she dresses like she doesn't care what she looks like, every day is a bad hair day, and she's fast losing the curves in her body and developing a pleasantly plump figure.
Of course, men can't expect women to be superwomen who are able to work, cook, clean, and make love with flawless precision. But a woman shouldn't start out playing the superwoman role at the beginning and then change. It's better to present herself as she is and get it all out in the open. When a woman changes her entire act after the relationship gets going, men feel as though they've been duped. Suddenly, he doesn't know what to believe anymore and feels he can't really trust the woman he thought he knew.
Not giving enough space
"She clings to me because she thinks that every minute I'm not with her I'm fooling around." The "S" word must be used carefully. Some men intentionally abuse the term "I need my space" to ensure that they can have their cake and eat it too--fool around while not giving up what they already have. But not all men are that way. Most men simply just want some room to be by themselves. Men, just like women, need to feel that they aren't trapped or being held hostage in their lives. From time to time, men want to get away and be alone or hang out with their friends.
But it's a strain on the relationship when women think that a man is being selfish, silly, or making up an excuse to go out and cheat just because he wants some space. The smart woman knows that a man needs his space and doesn't hold it against him. She's confident enough to know that each person needs his/her own space to maintain a healthy relationship. On the other hand, jealous and possessive women are well known for their deliberate attempts to prevent a man from having any sort of privacy. Those are the women who think letting a man out of their sight is a mistake. They keep choke holds on their men and eventually drive them away. But if a woman can't give the man a little space, either the relationship isn't solid or she has some personal problems she needs to deal with. If it's because she can't trust him out of her sight, she doesn't need that man anyway.
Wanting too many things
"I'm just a working man. I can't afford a two-story house in the suburbs, a Lexus, a Range Rover, a bunch of credit cards, and kids too." Some black men say black women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. Of course, wanting a good hardworking man who respects women isn't asking too much. But what about when it goes far beyond that? For some women, having a good man just isn't enough. They also want a Lexus, a two-story home in the suburbs, and a string of credit cards. When they don't have these things, they moan and complain as though life is terrible. If the man dares to say something about how he's happy with things as they are, he'll be accused of being complacent, lazy, and lacking ambition. It's fine to have goals and want some luxuries. But counting the blessings you already have never hurts either.
Not saying what she means
"Women expect you to read their minds like a psychic."
Men aren't very good mind readers. In fact, we often have difficulty just figuring out what women mean with the words they speak. I think women are far more sophisticated communicators than men; they seem to be more adept at the subtleties of gestures, facial expressions, and body language. Therefore, men and women almost always suffer from communication breakdowns in relationships.
Unfortunately, some women do not express themselves honestly and openly. It seems that they are more apt to use voice inflections and body language to communicate what they mean, even when the actual words they are saying convey the opposite. Take this situation, for example: "No, I don't mind if you go out with your friends instead of taking me to a movie tonight," a woman says, tapping her foot and looking away with her arms folded. Although her mouth is saying quite literally, "No, I don't mind," her body is saying she does mind. Women expect the men in their lives to read their nonverbal cues.
Some men fail to read the nonverbal cues of the women in their lives. When this happens, an argument is almost always the result, because the woman feels that she communicated her feelings to the man and he ignored her. For example, I'll use the scenario from the previous paragraph. When that man comes home from his night out with the guys, his wife is going to be angry at him. She'll probably snap at him when she talks, slam doors, or even yell at him.
"What's the problem?" he'll ask.
"You know what the problem is!"
But he really may not know what the problem is, because she never came out and said what she meant in words. She expected him to read the nonverbal cues and he totally missed them. As a result, the woman believes that the man is just being callous and self-centered. Likewise, the man is upset too; he thinks she's nagging him for no reason. Both of them will go to bed angry.
The 3 B's of sex
"I'm going to be straight about it: sex is important to me."
Perhaps it would be nice if sex didn't play such a major role in relationships. But for most people, sex is a big part of a relationship. And for men, it's probably more important than it should be. The sexual aggravations of men boil down to the three B's: bad, boring, and the boudoir battle.
1.Bad sex
Sex is a learned skill. It's similar to driving a car. Basically, anyone can do it. Some are good at it. And others are experts. But everyone has an idea of what they consider good and bad sex. Common complaints among men are: lack of enthusiasm, lack of rhythm, no creativity, and poor technique. If a person in a relationship is dissatisfied or experiencing sexual dysfunction, it's something that should be openly and honestly discussed. The reasons for sexual dysfunction can be psychological, physiological, ethical, and religious, or a host of other things. If the problems seem insurmountable, the advice of a pastor or therapist may be necessary.
2.Boring sex
Boring sex isn't necessarily the same thing as bad sex. But it is far from good. Boring sex is always doing it in the same place, at the same time, and in the same old position. It's when the sex gets to the point that it feels like more of a duty than a desire. Boring sex is when you're going through all the motions but there's no spice or passion involved.
3.Boudoir battle
Using sex as a weapon doesn't do anything but make a man angry. It can be subtle things such as not being open to touching and cuddling. Or it can be more strategic. It can be the refusal to do certain things in bed. The most brutal form of bedroom battle is outright refusal.
Of course, a man can't expect a woman who is angry at him to make mad, passionate love to him. That's where communication comes into play. It's far better to talk and resolve the differences than to play games of will because any real man will be very insulted by such behavior. Then he may become vengeful and the whole thing turns into a cold war of revenge. Boudoir battle can lead to deep resentment and some men will use it as an excuse to cheat on their wives or girlfriends.
Constantly talking about other men
"She's always talking about this guy at her job and it really pisses me off."
Men don't like to hear women constantly talking about other men. It's not necessarily an ego thing. It's just that each man wants to feel special and important to the woman in his life. Women don't have to cradle us like babies. Nor do they need to be patronizing. But a woman would be wise to realize that the ego of a man can be fragile. Black men in particular are constantly attempting to gain and maintain the basic elements of American manhood: the ability to provide, protect, and be masters of our own destinies. Not talking excessively to your husband or boyfriend about how great you think other men are is one small thing that can go a long way toward healing the beleaguered black male ego.
Being a drama queen
"She calls my pager all day when I'm at work. Then when I call her back, she just starts whining about some little thing that could've waited until later."
Drama queens are always whining, pestering, or nagging about something. With them, nothing can ever be right. They pull all kinds of little tricks to get and control a man's attention. If he's watching television, she wants him to get up and put out the trash. When he has time off from work, she tries to plan each hour for him. If it's bill-paying time, she's crying about her car note being late.
Another technique used by the drama queen is to play damsel in distress to get a man's attention. In this role the drama queen says "save me." Initially, it may make a man feel good to be the chivalrous knight in shining armor coming to the rescue. But too much distress can drive even the most loyal knight to ride off into the sunset.
Being hard and cold
"I work the graveyard shift so I don't have to be at home with my wife."
That response was from a man who had been married less than one year and was already engaged in a cold war with his wife. Most of the time she was openly disrespectful to him as a human being, not just as a man. Other times she was cold and aloof, barely acknowledging that he was in the room. Believe it or not, men have feelings too. Hard and cold behavior is enough to drive anyone away. Again, we aren't asking to be cradled like babies. But every man wants home to be a safe refuge from the cold-hearted world. However, when the world at home is colder than the work world, there is no solace.
Cheating
"They call us dogs, but women are out there fooling around just as much."
Some women will maintain that when a woman is cheating it's always the fault of a man. That simply isn't true. Women are human beings and are therefore just as subject to dishonesty and deceit as any man.
Cheating takes two forms. First, there's the obvious form, which is having affairs. But the second way of cheating is mental. It's the subtle art of getting over on him. She may not be fooling around with another man but she may be cheating by fooling around with the checkbook balance. Her body may be faithful, but she may be cheating by playing manipulative games to keep him within her control. Such games rob a man of his energy and creativity and prevent him from realizing his full potential. The truth is that cheating doesn't have to be just about affairs or lovers. Cheating is deception of any kind.
Engaging in power struggle
"I can't stand it when a woman always wants to prove to me that she's smart, tough, and independent."
It really irritates men when women they're involved with are constantly trying to upstage them. This is especially bothersome for those men who aren't trying to compete with their mates. This behavior takes many forms. Some women who engage in power struggles with their mates do it through career competition: who can make the most money or get the most prestige? For some the competition is based upon education level: who has the most advanced degree from the most prestigious school? Another form of engaging in a power struggle is competing in disagreements: who gets the last word in? In addition to those power struggles, the men I spoke with mentioned four other ways some women engage in a power struggle: (1) Making sure they look smarter than a man by intentionally upstaging him in public. (2) Disagreeing for the sake of disagreement. (3) Unnecessary rudeness. (4) Being condescending or cutting down what a man says when he states his personal thoughts and opinions.
The guys I spent the evening talking with agreed that they weren't intimidated by women who made more money, drove more expensive cars, or had more education than they did. Their issue was with women who want to flaunt those things in order to be the superior person in a relationship. They all agreed that such behavior was a complete turnoff. No matter what form the power struggle comes in, it's an energy drain for a man who isn't interested in competing with his mate. Engaging in a power struggle is a quick way to drive a man away.
I know this list is going to make the tempers of some women flare. But remember, this isn't a list of complaints. It's information intended to give women insight into what men are thinking; it's a bridge across the communication gap. Without straight and candid communication, we can't solve the issues that threaten to end so many relationships. Use these ten issues as a starting point for a dialogue with your husband, the man in your life, or a male friend. Such a discussion will give you even better insight than reading this list. And that’s the one-on-one communication needed not only to save relationships but to make them better.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
When I got the guys together, the first question I asked was "What are some of the things women do that drive men away?" I asked them to be blunt and candid in their responses, but I made it clear that I wasn't looking for a list of mean-spirited complaints. Instead, I wanted to compile a list of ten things that men wished women knew. A list that would bridge the gap between men and women. I told them the purpose of this list was to improve communication, avoid misunderstanding, and expose any "taboo" issues that need to be brought into the open. In that spirit, we began our discussion. As I sat and talked with the guys, most of their answers kept coming back to the ten areas explained below.
Acting sweet to get a man,then changing
"I don't know why women act so sweet during dating and change completely when they know they've got you."
She used to go to bed in a naughty nightie and didn't care about sweating the curls out of her head. Now she goes to bed with a head full of rollers and a face covered with Noxzema. When they were dating, she batted her eyes, spoke softly, and always looked sexy. But now that she's got him, that all changed. The gently batting eyes and shy smiles have been replaced with frowns, pursed lips, and shrill tones. No more sexy clothes. Now she dresses like she doesn't care what she looks like, every day is a bad hair day, and she's fast losing the curves in her body and developing a pleasantly plump figure.
Of course, men can't expect women to be superwomen who are able to work, cook, clean, and make love with flawless precision. But a woman shouldn't start out playing the superwoman role at the beginning and then change. It's better to present herself as she is and get it all out in the open. When a woman changes her entire act after the relationship gets going, men feel as though they've been duped. Suddenly, he doesn't know what to believe anymore and feels he can't really trust the woman he thought he knew.
Not giving enough space
"She clings to me because she thinks that every minute I'm not with her I'm fooling around." The "S" word must be used carefully. Some men intentionally abuse the term "I need my space" to ensure that they can have their cake and eat it too--fool around while not giving up what they already have. But not all men are that way. Most men simply just want some room to be by themselves. Men, just like women, need to feel that they aren't trapped or being held hostage in their lives. From time to time, men want to get away and be alone or hang out with their friends.
But it's a strain on the relationship when women think that a man is being selfish, silly, or making up an excuse to go out and cheat just because he wants some space. The smart woman knows that a man needs his space and doesn't hold it against him. She's confident enough to know that each person needs his/her own space to maintain a healthy relationship. On the other hand, jealous and possessive women are well known for their deliberate attempts to prevent a man from having any sort of privacy. Those are the women who think letting a man out of their sight is a mistake. They keep choke holds on their men and eventually drive them away. But if a woman can't give the man a little space, either the relationship isn't solid or she has some personal problems she needs to deal with. If it's because she can't trust him out of her sight, she doesn't need that man anyway.
Wanting too many things
"I'm just a working man. I can't afford a two-story house in the suburbs, a Lexus, a Range Rover, a bunch of credit cards, and kids too." Some black men say black women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. Of course, wanting a good hardworking man who respects women isn't asking too much. But what about when it goes far beyond that? For some women, having a good man just isn't enough. They also want a Lexus, a two-story home in the suburbs, and a string of credit cards. When they don't have these things, they moan and complain as though life is terrible. If the man dares to say something about how he's happy with things as they are, he'll be accused of being complacent, lazy, and lacking ambition. It's fine to have goals and want some luxuries. But counting the blessings you already have never hurts either.
Not saying what she means
"Women expect you to read their minds like a psychic."
Men aren't very good mind readers. In fact, we often have difficulty just figuring out what women mean with the words they speak. I think women are far more sophisticated communicators than men; they seem to be more adept at the subtleties of gestures, facial expressions, and body language. Therefore, men and women almost always suffer from communication breakdowns in relationships.
Unfortunately, some women do not express themselves honestly and openly. It seems that they are more apt to use voice inflections and body language to communicate what they mean, even when the actual words they are saying convey the opposite. Take this situation, for example: "No, I don't mind if you go out with your friends instead of taking me to a movie tonight," a woman says, tapping her foot and looking away with her arms folded. Although her mouth is saying quite literally, "No, I don't mind," her body is saying she does mind. Women expect the men in their lives to read their nonverbal cues.
Some men fail to read the nonverbal cues of the women in their lives. When this happens, an argument is almost always the result, because the woman feels that she communicated her feelings to the man and he ignored her. For example, I'll use the scenario from the previous paragraph. When that man comes home from his night out with the guys, his wife is going to be angry at him. She'll probably snap at him when she talks, slam doors, or even yell at him.
"What's the problem?" he'll ask.
"You know what the problem is!"
But he really may not know what the problem is, because she never came out and said what she meant in words. She expected him to read the nonverbal cues and he totally missed them. As a result, the woman believes that the man is just being callous and self-centered. Likewise, the man is upset too; he thinks she's nagging him for no reason. Both of them will go to bed angry.
The 3 B's of sex
"I'm going to be straight about it: sex is important to me."
Perhaps it would be nice if sex didn't play such a major role in relationships. But for most people, sex is a big part of a relationship. And for men, it's probably more important than it should be. The sexual aggravations of men boil down to the three B's: bad, boring, and the boudoir battle.
1.Bad sex
Sex is a learned skill. It's similar to driving a car. Basically, anyone can do it. Some are good at it. And others are experts. But everyone has an idea of what they consider good and bad sex. Common complaints among men are: lack of enthusiasm, lack of rhythm, no creativity, and poor technique. If a person in a relationship is dissatisfied or experiencing sexual dysfunction, it's something that should be openly and honestly discussed. The reasons for sexual dysfunction can be psychological, physiological, ethical, and religious, or a host of other things. If the problems seem insurmountable, the advice of a pastor or therapist may be necessary.
2.Boring sex
Boring sex isn't necessarily the same thing as bad sex. But it is far from good. Boring sex is always doing it in the same place, at the same time, and in the same old position. It's when the sex gets to the point that it feels like more of a duty than a desire. Boring sex is when you're going through all the motions but there's no spice or passion involved.
3.Boudoir battle
Using sex as a weapon doesn't do anything but make a man angry. It can be subtle things such as not being open to touching and cuddling. Or it can be more strategic. It can be the refusal to do certain things in bed. The most brutal form of bedroom battle is outright refusal.
Of course, a man can't expect a woman who is angry at him to make mad, passionate love to him. That's where communication comes into play. It's far better to talk and resolve the differences than to play games of will because any real man will be very insulted by such behavior. Then he may become vengeful and the whole thing turns into a cold war of revenge. Boudoir battle can lead to deep resentment and some men will use it as an excuse to cheat on their wives or girlfriends.
Constantly talking about other men
"She's always talking about this guy at her job and it really pisses me off."
Men don't like to hear women constantly talking about other men. It's not necessarily an ego thing. It's just that each man wants to feel special and important to the woman in his life. Women don't have to cradle us like babies. Nor do they need to be patronizing. But a woman would be wise to realize that the ego of a man can be fragile. Black men in particular are constantly attempting to gain and maintain the basic elements of American manhood: the ability to provide, protect, and be masters of our own destinies. Not talking excessively to your husband or boyfriend about how great you think other men are is one small thing that can go a long way toward healing the beleaguered black male ego.
Being a drama queen
"She calls my pager all day when I'm at work. Then when I call her back, she just starts whining about some little thing that could've waited until later."
Drama queens are always whining, pestering, or nagging about something. With them, nothing can ever be right. They pull all kinds of little tricks to get and control a man's attention. If he's watching television, she wants him to get up and put out the trash. When he has time off from work, she tries to plan each hour for him. If it's bill-paying time, she's crying about her car note being late.
Another technique used by the drama queen is to play damsel in distress to get a man's attention. In this role the drama queen says "save me." Initially, it may make a man feel good to be the chivalrous knight in shining armor coming to the rescue. But too much distress can drive even the most loyal knight to ride off into the sunset.
Being hard and cold
"I work the graveyard shift so I don't have to be at home with my wife."
That response was from a man who had been married less than one year and was already engaged in a cold war with his wife. Most of the time she was openly disrespectful to him as a human being, not just as a man. Other times she was cold and aloof, barely acknowledging that he was in the room. Believe it or not, men have feelings too. Hard and cold behavior is enough to drive anyone away. Again, we aren't asking to be cradled like babies. But every man wants home to be a safe refuge from the cold-hearted world. However, when the world at home is colder than the work world, there is no solace.
Cheating
"They call us dogs, but women are out there fooling around just as much."
Some women will maintain that when a woman is cheating it's always the fault of a man. That simply isn't true. Women are human beings and are therefore just as subject to dishonesty and deceit as any man.
Cheating takes two forms. First, there's the obvious form, which is having affairs. But the second way of cheating is mental. It's the subtle art of getting over on him. She may not be fooling around with another man but she may be cheating by fooling around with the checkbook balance. Her body may be faithful, but she may be cheating by playing manipulative games to keep him within her control. Such games rob a man of his energy and creativity and prevent him from realizing his full potential. The truth is that cheating doesn't have to be just about affairs or lovers. Cheating is deception of any kind.
Engaging in power struggle
"I can't stand it when a woman always wants to prove to me that she's smart, tough, and independent."
It really irritates men when women they're involved with are constantly trying to upstage them. This is especially bothersome for those men who aren't trying to compete with their mates. This behavior takes many forms. Some women who engage in power struggles with their mates do it through career competition: who can make the most money or get the most prestige? For some the competition is based upon education level: who has the most advanced degree from the most prestigious school? Another form of engaging in a power struggle is competing in disagreements: who gets the last word in? In addition to those power struggles, the men I spoke with mentioned four other ways some women engage in a power struggle: (1) Making sure they look smarter than a man by intentionally upstaging him in public. (2) Disagreeing for the sake of disagreement. (3) Unnecessary rudeness. (4) Being condescending or cutting down what a man says when he states his personal thoughts and opinions.
The guys I spent the evening talking with agreed that they weren't intimidated by women who made more money, drove more expensive cars, or had more education than they did. Their issue was with women who want to flaunt those things in order to be the superior person in a relationship. They all agreed that such behavior was a complete turnoff. No matter what form the power struggle comes in, it's an energy drain for a man who isn't interested in competing with his mate. Engaging in a power struggle is a quick way to drive a man away.
I know this list is going to make the tempers of some women flare. But remember, this isn't a list of complaints. It's information intended to give women insight into what men are thinking; it's a bridge across the communication gap. Without straight and candid communication, we can't solve the issues that threaten to end so many relationships. Use these ten issues as a starting point for a dialogue with your husband, the man in your life, or a male friend. Such a discussion will give you even better insight than reading this list. And that’s the one-on-one communication needed not only to save relationships but to make them better.
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!
There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Break-Up Fixes And Remedies
When love is lost, sometimes the most comforting thing to do is read breakup quotes. To have expressed so well the feelings you are having can help you to come to grips with your own emotions. Other times, it's just really nice to know that you aren't the only person who has felt heartbreak after a relationship ends. This can also be encouraging as well, as you read the thoughts of people who have broken up, survived it, and have moved on. Understanding the nature of love and breakups won't take the pain away, especially if you were rudely dumped, but they can help you to realize that your feelings have been shared by others.
Recognize what wasn't working for you
So let me ask you. Are you spending a lot of time thinking about all the ways you screwed up in your relationship with your boyfriend, but all the ways he was great?
Do you keep rehashing an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him, feeling guilty or bad that things moved “too fast” between you (and it scared him away)? Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you’ll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?
Romanticizing or re-hashing the past is a pretty common thing many women do when they break up with a man. Big mistake. Don’t do this to yourself. This is 100% sure to only make you feel more awful, not to mention that it keeps you from focusing on what’s most important to you right now.
And that is learning how to get what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve in the future. When you focus on your ex too much, and you spend your time “pining away” for a relationship, you miss out on a very important lesson.
You stop seeing all the ways that the relationship made life a roller cotter for you.You don’t realize all the ways he wasn’t right for you or made you feel less than your true self. You don’t learn what it is your really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled. Let’s face it, you were led down some very negative emotional paths by this guy, weren’t you?
So, instead of thinking only of the “good times” and how much you miss him, consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.
What can you learn about yourself, love and men from the things that drove you two apart, so that you’re sure to have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around.
Don’t repeat those same mistakes in your next relationship.If you’re starting to realize now that even if you love a man, you don’t really understand what it is that makes a relationship actually work and last with one…
Or you don’t understand what you’re doing in the relationship that’s causing him to withdraw or lose interest in you, you’ll just keep bringing those same issues into future relationships.
Then I want to show you: What defines a “good”, mature guy to begin with, so you don’t keep picking men who just aren’t ready for a real relationship in the first place .What makes a man feel inspired to be completely devoted to you from day 1, both emotionally and sexually .What a man needs in order to feel that he’s in love with you and that a relationship is “working” in his mind .
Go here to know what a truly honest and mature looks and sounds like, what inspires him to see you as the only woman for him. and how to make it effortless to want to be with you.
Stop losing yourself in relationships
You probably gave up a lot to be with your guy. You gave up time with your friends and family. You gave up doing things you used to love doing things like reading, exercising, going on hikes, visiting art shows,whatever.
You gave it up in order to spend time with him. You gave it up to make him feel comfortable. You gave things up because the relationship seemed important, and you wanted it to work. Sure, I get it. Many women feel like they need to give things up to keep a man happy and attracted.
But if you’re using that excuse to: Stay emotionally attached to him, because you feel that you can’t “get over him” easily since you gave up so much .Feel too depressed to go out with your friends or get back to the things that used to make you feel alive and happy.Refuse to “get back out there” and date someone new. Then guess what you’re doing?
Yep, that’s right. You’re still giving up more of you and your happiness for his sake. Even though he’s out of your life. Have weeks, months or years have gone by, and you’re still in the same “sacrificing” place, putting your life on hold instead of realizing your own needs?
Snap out of it! You are actually continuing the very thing that helped break your relationship apart, and made you feel unhappy and unfulfilled. Stop the cycle of only finding that your relationships are about you and your partner turning on each other and breaking each other down.
It’s time you learned how to receives and to get the true love and devotion you deserve from a man. And yes, by you changing the way you go about your relationship you can make this change happen in the man you’re with, or in the kind of man you attract.
Don’t wait for the right relationship to “happen to you”, when you have the power to make it happen for yourself and feel 100% confident about where your love and relationship is headed. Let what you do from here forward in relationships start giving back and feeding you inside and out. forever.
Be ready for love when it finds you
When you end a relationship that felt like it had a lot of “promise” and connection, it’s hard to believe you’ll ever find love again, at least in quite the same way. You might even vow not to date again for a long time, because you just don’t want to get hurt again. It can feel pretty safe to live inside the little “bubble” you make for yourself, just working on your career, spending time with friends, doing things that make you happy.
What do you need a man for anyway? Think.About it
You put yourself and your love life in a “holding pattern” because you don’t want to let another man in or get close. You don’t want to be vulnerable. What’s the point, if all that’s going to happen is that you’ll end up feeling more of the same, bad feelings you’re trying to get over now – right?
Actually, no. I don’t agree. Because if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize that you don’t want to shut yourself off from what can be the opportunity for an amazing, life-long experience. That one great guy you’re meant to be with could be out there right now. Unless you create the “space” for him in your life, you won’t be ready for love when it finds you.
Ok, you may feel pretty in-control and safe right now, but are you living? If you’re not taking a risk, are you risking never feeling the love and connection that could transform your life someday?
Nod your head right now if you feel even a grimmer of truth in what I’m saying. And here’s another common thing I hear from women who aren’t ready to date again. “There’s no good men out there for me anyway. The ones I’m attracted to aren’t attracted to me. Or they’re taken.” I can see how you may feel that way if you’re not sure how you’re going to attract the right guy, or the type of guy you’re into.
Plus, your recent experience with men has been, well, less than great. Like when a guy comes on strong at first, then suddenly tells you he’s “not ready” for anything serious, or isn’t “into” monogamy or commitment.No wonder you’d rather stick a twig in your eye than date again anytime soon.
Yeah, I get it. Alright, but what if I told you that you that I can help you learn exactly how to identify and attract the right guy, and give you an “edge” that you’ve never had before in dating?
Would it change the way you think and feel about men if you knew exactly how to get a man close and connected to you and keep him wanting you and only you, without games, manipulation or “tricks” of any kind whatsoever?
You can experience the kind of love you’ve always wanted in your life, regardless of what kinds of bad experiences you’ve had before. You’ll attract quality men because they will “sense” that you are the type of woman they’re looking to have something special with.
You’ll learn exactly what kinds of words and behavior magnetically draw a man to you, and what repels a man from ever wanting anything past the “physical” with you, so you can avoid making those mistakes and losing a guy after getting intimate with him.
Here’s the truth about attraction: It’s not about being a great beauty, or about seducing a man into having feelings for you. Actually, it’s about something deeper and morelong-lasting. And the best part is, that once a man feels this level of attraction for you, almost nothing can keep him away from wanting to be with you. I hope you take these steps and find the love you really deserve.And let me know how it worked for you.
I will talk to ya again soon.
Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Recognize what wasn't working for you
So let me ask you. Are you spending a lot of time thinking about all the ways you screwed up in your relationship with your boyfriend, but all the ways he was great?
Do you keep rehashing an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him, feeling guilty or bad that things moved “too fast” between you (and it scared him away)? Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you’ll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?
Romanticizing or re-hashing the past is a pretty common thing many women do when they break up with a man. Big mistake. Don’t do this to yourself. This is 100% sure to only make you feel more awful, not to mention that it keeps you from focusing on what’s most important to you right now.
And that is learning how to get what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve in the future. When you focus on your ex too much, and you spend your time “pining away” for a relationship, you miss out on a very important lesson.
You stop seeing all the ways that the relationship made life a roller cotter for you.You don’t realize all the ways he wasn’t right for you or made you feel less than your true self. You don’t learn what it is your really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled. Let’s face it, you were led down some very negative emotional paths by this guy, weren’t you?
So, instead of thinking only of the “good times” and how much you miss him, consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.
What can you learn about yourself, love and men from the things that drove you two apart, so that you’re sure to have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around.
Don’t repeat those same mistakes in your next relationship.If you’re starting to realize now that even if you love a man, you don’t really understand what it is that makes a relationship actually work and last with one…
Or you don’t understand what you’re doing in the relationship that’s causing him to withdraw or lose interest in you, you’ll just keep bringing those same issues into future relationships.
Then I want to show you: What defines a “good”, mature guy to begin with, so you don’t keep picking men who just aren’t ready for a real relationship in the first place .What makes a man feel inspired to be completely devoted to you from day 1, both emotionally and sexually .What a man needs in order to feel that he’s in love with you and that a relationship is “working” in his mind .
Go here to know what a truly honest and mature looks and sounds like, what inspires him to see you as the only woman for him. and how to make it effortless to want to be with you.
Stop losing yourself in relationships
You probably gave up a lot to be with your guy. You gave up time with your friends and family. You gave up doing things you used to love doing things like reading, exercising, going on hikes, visiting art shows,whatever.
You gave it up in order to spend time with him. You gave it up to make him feel comfortable. You gave things up because the relationship seemed important, and you wanted it to work. Sure, I get it. Many women feel like they need to give things up to keep a man happy and attracted.
But if you’re using that excuse to: Stay emotionally attached to him, because you feel that you can’t “get over him” easily since you gave up so much .Feel too depressed to go out with your friends or get back to the things that used to make you feel alive and happy.Refuse to “get back out there” and date someone new. Then guess what you’re doing?
Yep, that’s right. You’re still giving up more of you and your happiness for his sake. Even though he’s out of your life. Have weeks, months or years have gone by, and you’re still in the same “sacrificing” place, putting your life on hold instead of realizing your own needs?
Snap out of it! You are actually continuing the very thing that helped break your relationship apart, and made you feel unhappy and unfulfilled. Stop the cycle of only finding that your relationships are about you and your partner turning on each other and breaking each other down.
It’s time you learned how to receives and to get the true love and devotion you deserve from a man. And yes, by you changing the way you go about your relationship you can make this change happen in the man you’re with, or in the kind of man you attract.
Don’t wait for the right relationship to “happen to you”, when you have the power to make it happen for yourself and feel 100% confident about where your love and relationship is headed. Let what you do from here forward in relationships start giving back and feeding you inside and out. forever.
Be ready for love when it finds you
When you end a relationship that felt like it had a lot of “promise” and connection, it’s hard to believe you’ll ever find love again, at least in quite the same way. You might even vow not to date again for a long time, because you just don’t want to get hurt again. It can feel pretty safe to live inside the little “bubble” you make for yourself, just working on your career, spending time with friends, doing things that make you happy.
What do you need a man for anyway? Think.About it
You put yourself and your love life in a “holding pattern” because you don’t want to let another man in or get close. You don’t want to be vulnerable. What’s the point, if all that’s going to happen is that you’ll end up feeling more of the same, bad feelings you’re trying to get over now – right?
Actually, no. I don’t agree. Because if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize that you don’t want to shut yourself off from what can be the opportunity for an amazing, life-long experience. That one great guy you’re meant to be with could be out there right now. Unless you create the “space” for him in your life, you won’t be ready for love when it finds you.
Ok, you may feel pretty in-control and safe right now, but are you living? If you’re not taking a risk, are you risking never feeling the love and connection that could transform your life someday?
Nod your head right now if you feel even a grimmer of truth in what I’m saying. And here’s another common thing I hear from women who aren’t ready to date again. “There’s no good men out there for me anyway. The ones I’m attracted to aren’t attracted to me. Or they’re taken.” I can see how you may feel that way if you’re not sure how you’re going to attract the right guy, or the type of guy you’re into.
Plus, your recent experience with men has been, well, less than great. Like when a guy comes on strong at first, then suddenly tells you he’s “not ready” for anything serious, or isn’t “into” monogamy or commitment.No wonder you’d rather stick a twig in your eye than date again anytime soon.
Yeah, I get it. Alright, but what if I told you that you that I can help you learn exactly how to identify and attract the right guy, and give you an “edge” that you’ve never had before in dating?
Would it change the way you think and feel about men if you knew exactly how to get a man close and connected to you and keep him wanting you and only you, without games, manipulation or “tricks” of any kind whatsoever?
You can experience the kind of love you’ve always wanted in your life, regardless of what kinds of bad experiences you’ve had before. You’ll attract quality men because they will “sense” that you are the type of woman they’re looking to have something special with.
You’ll learn exactly what kinds of words and behavior magnetically draw a man to you, and what repels a man from ever wanting anything past the “physical” with you, so you can avoid making those mistakes and losing a guy after getting intimate with him.
Here’s the truth about attraction: It’s not about being a great beauty, or about seducing a man into having feelings for you. Actually, it’s about something deeper and morelong-lasting. And the best part is, that once a man feels this level of attraction for you, almost nothing can keep him away from wanting to be with you. I hope you take these steps and find the love you really deserve.And let me know how it worked for you.
I will talk to ya again soon.
Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
Are you having a hard time getting past a recent break-up?
Are you having a hard time getting past a recent break-up? Are you confused by a guy who says one thing, but does another? If so, it's likely that you're constantly asking yourself, "What is he thinking?!" This can be a huge trap for you as a woman. If you're thrown off and upset by the mixed signals your boyfriend is sending you about how attracted or committed he is to you, then ask yourself one question: What will it take to close this gap in understanding between you and your man? I will show you what men are really thinking and going through when they've done that predictably frustrating thing of saying that they love you but they're not acting like it anymore.
It's time you end your confusion by getting the real tools and answers you need to create the kind of relationship you want with a man. Men seem to act like they could take it or leave it in relationships. But if you know what a man is really looking for and what drives him wild, it's likely that you could experience that ongoing and intense attraction and devotion from your man that only a few women seem to have.
Maybe you were dating for a while and you thought things were pretty amazing, but he wasn't so sure. Or maybe you were the one who decided it was better to end things. But now you find yourself wondering if that was really the right move, because you're having trouble moving on.
Are you're still trying to figure out how to get him back, or show him that you're really "the one" for him?
You text him, or call him, and maybe agreed to "still be friends" and hang out once in a while. But nothing seems to make you feel better. In fact, the more you talk to him or see him, the worse you feel. Still, you can't imagine not talking to him at all because you still have some very intense feelings that just aren't going away anytime soon.
In any case, you're feeling pretty "stuck" right now, and you don't know what to do about it.If that's true, then stick around and keep reading, because in this email I'm going to give you three powerful remedies for getting past a break-up and getting your love life back on track.
These remedies will fast-track you through feeling better and getting past all the confusion of your break-up. Take a few minutes to read and really think about each step, and then commit to follow through on each one.You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel.
Check on this post:Quick Break-Up Fixes & Remedies....
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
It's time you end your confusion by getting the real tools and answers you need to create the kind of relationship you want with a man. Men seem to act like they could take it or leave it in relationships. But if you know what a man is really looking for and what drives him wild, it's likely that you could experience that ongoing and intense attraction and devotion from your man that only a few women seem to have.
Maybe you were dating for a while and you thought things were pretty amazing, but he wasn't so sure. Or maybe you were the one who decided it was better to end things. But now you find yourself wondering if that was really the right move, because you're having trouble moving on.
Are you're still trying to figure out how to get him back, or show him that you're really "the one" for him?
You text him, or call him, and maybe agreed to "still be friends" and hang out once in a while. But nothing seems to make you feel better. In fact, the more you talk to him or see him, the worse you feel. Still, you can't imagine not talking to him at all because you still have some very intense feelings that just aren't going away anytime soon.
In any case, you're feeling pretty "stuck" right now, and you don't know what to do about it.If that's true, then stick around and keep reading, because in this email I'm going to give you three powerful remedies for getting past a break-up and getting your love life back on track.
These remedies will fast-track you through feeling better and getting past all the confusion of your break-up. Take a few minutes to read and really think about each step, and then commit to follow through on each one.You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel.
Check on this post:Quick Break-Up Fixes & Remedies....
I will talk to ya again soon. Keep on Dating!There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in love and life!
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