There is no doubt that many of us today would think that with all the information there is about good sex more people would be better at pleasing their partners when they make love. Sadly, a lot of folks pay little attention to how they can become a better lover.
It isn’t that difficult to learn how to make love. Developing a good technique takes patience and practice. But it also means avoiding several things when you get into the bedroom for sex. Believe it or not, these are actual problems clients tell sex therapists that their partners do that annoys them.
1#. Waiting until your partner is trapped under the sheets to initiate sex. Really, now, do you lack so much sexual imagination that the only way you can get your partner to have sex with you is to wait until you are in bed and your partner has nowhere else to go? Let your partner know you’re thinking about making love to them by giving them some extra hugs and kisses, telling them what they mean to you, and pitching in to help so that your partner isn’t dead tired at night when you want to make love.
2#. Taking less than ten minutes for foreplay. There’s nothing wrong with quick sex, but expecting your partner to be ready just because you are is a little silly. If you’re partner is willing to make love, give them a warm-up. Kiss, lick, suck, and nuzzle your partner in all the places that make them melt. It doesn’t take that much effort to get your partner excited about sex.
3#. Forgetting what your partner likes in bed. Look, part of way to be a great lover is not to rely on what you think your partner might like, but to find out what really makes them hot and then doing it again. Even bigger mistake? Doing things your partner definitely dislikes. You need to develop a sort of mental sex Rolodex and remember what your partner enjoys.
4#. Annoying your partner with stupid sex jokes. Hey, if you’re both in the mood for some giggles, then joke away. But if your partner has told you about a need to be held close and loved up, then ditch the dirty jokes as foreplay.
5#. Not taking the time to learn lovemaking techniques. Just because you’ve been with your partner awhile, doesn’t mean your lovemaking techniques are topnotch. There’s always something new to learn—a new touch, a new kiss, a new position, a new fantasy. If you think sex has gotten a little stale, take some responsibility and learn something new.
6#. Jumping up immediately after sex to do something else. Is there anything tackier than finishing up sex and getting up to change the laundry from the washer to the dryer or letting Fido out for the night? Make sure your partner knows that you appreciated the time you spent making love before moving on to real life matters.
7#. Not taking a shower or brushing your teeth before you make love. ‘Nuf said. Unless your partner likes truly “dirty” sex, clean up your act before you make a move.
Sex isn’t rocket science. It doesn’t take a genius to be a good lover. Just by avoiding the above listed mistakes, your partner will think you’re really good in bed.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Friday, March 27, 2009
The Top Ten Surefire Signs Of A Cheating Wife
The surefire signs of a cheating wife are subtly different to those of a cheating husband. Statistics tell us that 50% of men who think their partner is cheating are right.
If you suspect your wife might be cheating on you behind your back here are 10 signs that you need to look out for:
1#. She pays more attention to her appearance. This could be with her changing her hairstyle, changing her perfume, taking more time doing her hair and nails, or buying new clothes.
2#. She makes a conscious effort to lose weight. This might also involve her joining an exercise or yoga class.
3#. She spends more time 'out with the girls' or having a drink after work.
4#. She takes up a new activity such as enrolling on a course or an evening class.
5. She buys you little gifts. This could be a way to keep you off the scent or just because she's feeling guilty.
6#. You notice a difference in your sex life (better, worse or just different).
7#. You detect smells of aftershave on her clothes which is different to the type you use.
8#. She gets more private when taking phone calls, either by going into a different room to speak or leaving the house soon after the phone rings.
9#. She starts receiving suspicious voicemail messages, or you notice new cell phone numbers stored and dialed.
10#. She spends more time online than before.
These signs of a cheating wife may not mean anything in isolation, but if you notice a number of them happening you should take them as a warning sign that there's probably something going on.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
If you suspect your wife might be cheating on you behind your back here are 10 signs that you need to look out for:
1#. She pays more attention to her appearance. This could be with her changing her hairstyle, changing her perfume, taking more time doing her hair and nails, or buying new clothes.
2#. She makes a conscious effort to lose weight. This might also involve her joining an exercise or yoga class.
3#. She spends more time 'out with the girls' or having a drink after work.
4#. She takes up a new activity such as enrolling on a course or an evening class.
5. She buys you little gifts. This could be a way to keep you off the scent or just because she's feeling guilty.
6#. You notice a difference in your sex life (better, worse or just different).
7#. You detect smells of aftershave on her clothes which is different to the type you use.
8#. She gets more private when taking phone calls, either by going into a different room to speak or leaving the house soon after the phone rings.
9#. She starts receiving suspicious voicemail messages, or you notice new cell phone numbers stored and dialed.
10#. She spends more time online than before.
These signs of a cheating wife may not mean anything in isolation, but if you notice a number of them happening you should take them as a warning sign that there's probably something going on.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Dating a Married Man - Make Him Yours or Get out of this Addiction Fast !!!
Dating a married man!!! Being the other woman is one of the hardest thing in the world. I remember couple years ago a friend of mine let herself blindly get involved in a relationship with a cheating husband.
She didn't like him at first and no matter what excuse she threw to herself, it's nothing to do with how or why it started. It was more like..."hey I'm stuck Now".
What's worse is that he looked better in her eyes as days go by, and she started to tolerate a lot more things (no gifts for her birthday, lonely christmas and holiday times, splitting the bill or picking up his bills, lonely weekends etc). She didn't see him for who he was: a cheating husband.
He put up with every single one of the traditional married man excuse such as 'It's hard to just leave my marriage', 'if I easily leave my current marriage you will think bad of me -
but I'll do it sometime since you're so special'...'I'm not in love with my wife..we're heading for separation Soon'...etc.
After 2 more years she started to regain a little of her brain consciousness. She started to realise that he was a married man, a cheating husband! Even so, she couldn't let go of him because she thought he loved her to the max. He even let her believe that she was her soulmate and more sweet words started to come out of his mouth.
So she decided to be her 'friend' and didn't want to take things further than that. Oh come on, she didn't think he could even think straight in the first place...
Finally, she took all her courage together, bought a few of the break up books available on the market "It's called a break up because it's broken by Greg and
Amiira Behrendt"), silently making a plan in her head to stop having a relationship with a married man.
She knew that even if losing him would cause a pain so great, staying with him was wasting her heart, emotion, and time. So she had to do what's good and she had to get out of it altogether.
Okay, let me share what she did and what steps you can take to stop dealing with a cheating husband and stop dating a married man:
1#. Tell him "Action speaks louder than words" and if he loves you he should want to make you happy. You are clearly not happy being stuck in a limbo state and he really should be willing to meet your needs. (If he cannot adhere to that, you know his words are just mere excuses)
2#. Tell yourself again and again: "If this man loves you, he should respect you instead of knowingly two timing you".
3#. His words will not change your situation. You are not even 'waiting' for anything. Refer to rule number 1.
4#. The best and fastest way to forget him is to cut contacts (Physically first, emotionally comes later). I'm going to expand on this because I know it's easier said than done. But
trust me, if you do it now it is the FASTEST way to forget him. Timeline is: 2 - 3 weeks and you will be on the borderline of being normal, slowly picking up. 2 months later you will be glad you did this.
5#. Know that if he really loves you, he will look for you - without the baggage and the wedding ring this time. Otherwise, you would've saved so much time, some pride and some heartbreak.
6#. Start being active in your life - take dance lessons/classes or something. Meet up with your friends and use those friends as your 'support group'.
7#. Start dating again. You and I both know you'd rather sleep on the couch than merely having the thoughts of dating someone you don't love. You are still attached to that married man of course. But! At the very least this should distract you from being so attached to this married man.
One word of caution though: Do not fall into a rebound relationship - dating is good, but don't lead them on too much if you don't intend to love them...if you know what I mean.
In time, you will seriously find a better love, someone who you can tell the whole world: he is yours. And most importantly, someone who wants to be with you full time.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
She didn't like him at first and no matter what excuse she threw to herself, it's nothing to do with how or why it started. It was more like..."hey I'm stuck Now".
What's worse is that he looked better in her eyes as days go by, and she started to tolerate a lot more things (no gifts for her birthday, lonely christmas and holiday times, splitting the bill or picking up his bills, lonely weekends etc). She didn't see him for who he was: a cheating husband.
He put up with every single one of the traditional married man excuse such as 'It's hard to just leave my marriage', 'if I easily leave my current marriage you will think bad of me -
but I'll do it sometime since you're so special'...'I'm not in love with my wife..we're heading for separation Soon'...etc.
After 2 more years she started to regain a little of her brain consciousness. She started to realise that he was a married man, a cheating husband! Even so, she couldn't let go of him because she thought he loved her to the max. He even let her believe that she was her soulmate and more sweet words started to come out of his mouth.
So she decided to be her 'friend' and didn't want to take things further than that. Oh come on, she didn't think he could even think straight in the first place...
Finally, she took all her courage together, bought a few of the break up books available on the market "It's called a break up because it's broken by Greg and
Amiira Behrendt"), silently making a plan in her head to stop having a relationship with a married man.
She knew that even if losing him would cause a pain so great, staying with him was wasting her heart, emotion, and time. So she had to do what's good and she had to get out of it altogether.
Okay, let me share what she did and what steps you can take to stop dealing with a cheating husband and stop dating a married man:
1#. Tell him "Action speaks louder than words" and if he loves you he should want to make you happy. You are clearly not happy being stuck in a limbo state and he really should be willing to meet your needs. (If he cannot adhere to that, you know his words are just mere excuses)
2#. Tell yourself again and again: "If this man loves you, he should respect you instead of knowingly two timing you".
3#. His words will not change your situation. You are not even 'waiting' for anything. Refer to rule number 1.
4#. The best and fastest way to forget him is to cut contacts (Physically first, emotionally comes later). I'm going to expand on this because I know it's easier said than done. But
trust me, if you do it now it is the FASTEST way to forget him. Timeline is: 2 - 3 weeks and you will be on the borderline of being normal, slowly picking up. 2 months later you will be glad you did this.
5#. Know that if he really loves you, he will look for you - without the baggage and the wedding ring this time. Otherwise, you would've saved so much time, some pride and some heartbreak.
6#. Start being active in your life - take dance lessons/classes or something. Meet up with your friends and use those friends as your 'support group'.
7#. Start dating again. You and I both know you'd rather sleep on the couch than merely having the thoughts of dating someone you don't love. You are still attached to that married man of course. But! At the very least this should distract you from being so attached to this married man.
One word of caution though: Do not fall into a rebound relationship - dating is good, but don't lead them on too much if you don't intend to love them...if you know what I mean.
In time, you will seriously find a better love, someone who you can tell the whole world: he is yours. And most importantly, someone who wants to be with you full time.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Why Women Stay With Men Who Cheat
Many people find it hard to understand why a woman would choose to stay in a marriage or a relationship with a man who has cheated on her, or who has a history of extramarital affairs.
Yet there are millions of women, who for various reasons, have chosen to stay with a cheating mate.
Reasons Women Stay with Cheating Men
Listed below are a few of the reasons why women choose to stay with a cheating spouse or significant other:
1#. Love
2#. Convenience
3#. Financial reasons
4#. Not willing to give up lifestyle
5#. Insufficient proof of infidelity
6#. For the sake of the children
7#. Fear of change
8#. Low self esteem
9#. Bad timing
10#. Thinking the cheater will change
11#. To achieve career goals
12#. Hoping counseling will help
13#. Fear of being alone
14#. Loyalty
15#. Religious beliefs
16#. Desire to keep the family intact
17#. Belief that it won’t happen again
These are not the only reasons women remain in relationships with cheaters. There are other reasons, too -- reasons that make sense only to the woman involved.
A Woman Shouldn’t Have to Explain
Having been a victim of infidelity myself, I feel that a woman should never have to explain or defend her decision to anyone (other than her children) as to why she has chosen to leave or to stay with a man who cheats.
Choosing to leave, or to stay with a cheating spouse or significant other is a very personal matter. Some women will make a spur the moment decision the minute they find out about the affair. And many times they may regret their choice. For other women, whether to stay or leave is a carefully thought-out decision in which many factors have been taken into consideration.
Well-wishing friends and family members are quick to tell w woman what they think she should do if her husband or boyfriend is having an affair. But it’s up to the woman to decide for herself what’s in her (and her children’s) best interests at the time. She is the one who has to live with the decision that’s made.
What Not to Do When a Husband Cheats
While making the right decision is of the utmost importance, it’s more important to know what NOT to do.
Many women react blindly when they first find out about the affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge cause them to do things they may later regret.
Regardless of whether a woman ultimately decides to stay with the cheater or leave him, doing the wrong thing in the initial stages of discovery can actually make a bad situation worse. Rather than making a hasty, spur-of-the-moment decision, it’s best to take time to carefully think things through. It’s important for her to avoid making a mistake that can sabotage the course of action she eventually decides to take.
For some women, staying is the right decision. For other women, the right decision may be to leave. Each woman must make her own choice. The most.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Yet there are millions of women, who for various reasons, have chosen to stay with a cheating mate.
Reasons Women Stay with Cheating Men
Listed below are a few of the reasons why women choose to stay with a cheating spouse or significant other:
1#. Love
2#. Convenience
3#. Financial reasons
4#. Not willing to give up lifestyle
5#. Insufficient proof of infidelity
6#. For the sake of the children
7#. Fear of change
8#. Low self esteem
9#. Bad timing
10#. Thinking the cheater will change
11#. To achieve career goals
12#. Hoping counseling will help
13#. Fear of being alone
14#. Loyalty
15#. Religious beliefs
16#. Desire to keep the family intact
17#. Belief that it won’t happen again
These are not the only reasons women remain in relationships with cheaters. There are other reasons, too -- reasons that make sense only to the woman involved.
A Woman Shouldn’t Have to Explain
Having been a victim of infidelity myself, I feel that a woman should never have to explain or defend her decision to anyone (other than her children) as to why she has chosen to leave or to stay with a man who cheats.
Choosing to leave, or to stay with a cheating spouse or significant other is a very personal matter. Some women will make a spur the moment decision the minute they find out about the affair. And many times they may regret their choice. For other women, whether to stay or leave is a carefully thought-out decision in which many factors have been taken into consideration.
Well-wishing friends and family members are quick to tell w woman what they think she should do if her husband or boyfriend is having an affair. But it’s up to the woman to decide for herself what’s in her (and her children’s) best interests at the time. She is the one who has to live with the decision that’s made.
What Not to Do When a Husband Cheats
While making the right decision is of the utmost importance, it’s more important to know what NOT to do.
Many women react blindly when they first find out about the affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge cause them to do things they may later regret.
Regardless of whether a woman ultimately decides to stay with the cheater or leave him, doing the wrong thing in the initial stages of discovery can actually make a bad situation worse. Rather than making a hasty, spur-of-the-moment decision, it’s best to take time to carefully think things through. It’s important for her to avoid making a mistake that can sabotage the course of action she eventually decides to take.
For some women, staying is the right decision. For other women, the right decision may be to leave. Each woman must make her own choice. The most.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
The Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat
The reason as to why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.
Then, why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.
The following are the top 10 reasons why men cheat.
1#. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
2#. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
3#. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
4#. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
5#. They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
6#. Your sex life stinks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.
7#. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex?
8#. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.
9#. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.
10#. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Then, why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.
The following are the top 10 reasons why men cheat.
1#. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
2#. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
3#. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
4#. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
5#. They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
6#. Your sex life stinks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.
7#. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex?
8#. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.
9#. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.
10#. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Does He Want A Relationship? How Do I Know...
This post has several simple and easy to use tips to quickly help you turn around the relationship problems you're having, or get your new but uncertain relationship started off right.
If you feel "stuck" and he doesn't seem to be feeling it for you the way he used to... and just talking and opening up has become a problem between you two and creates more "drama" than it does help you connect- don't keep doing the things that have caused him to withdraw in the first place.
If you'd like a shortcut to the quickest way to get the passion back to where your guy can't help but be affectionate and is wild about spending time alone with you...
Then the quickest way to make him feel this way again, and avoid frustrating arguments that end up nowhere... is to learn the secrets to making a man feel so attracted to you that he'll have to keep you close and connected in your relationship now and in the future.
Learn how to create this kind of attraction right. Well, I want to answer an important question about men and relationships that women ask me all the time.
The answer may surprise you when it comes to what really works to turn around a "troubled” relationship that feels like it's going nowhere and quickly recapture that "spark."Here goes...Question-
"How do I figure out where my relationship is going... and how do I know what he wants and if he feels the same way I do?"
If I had a nickel for every woman who asked this question. Let me put this in perspective for you...
The very best situation to be in if you're starting a new relationship is to have a man so clearly feeling attracted to you that he’s the one who wants to make plans to be with you all the time.
Of course, this involves more than just the plain old physical attraction a man can feel for lots of "attractive" women.
As a woman, you might already get how "easy” Physical Attraction is for a man to feel. ...and how a man can and will be with a woman not because he really likes or loves her... but because he has a strong desire to be physically intimate with her.
It's never a bad thing if a man has this kind of raw passion and desire for you.
But... There has to be something more than him feeling a strong physical desire to be with you if want things to turn into a real relationship.And this is where way too many women make their first mistake with a man-
I call this mistake "The Danger Of A Connection."This is mistaking the Physical Attraction a man feels with you... and the affection, compliments, and "quality time" a man will spend with you as a signal of his desire for a relationship.
When he's simply enjoying the connection you feel. With a man, a great connection does not mean he wants or feels that "relationship feeling" with you-
Even though for lots of women, these things are one in the same. Here's the reality when it comes to men...
A man can share an amazing "connection" with you that is truly intimate and caring, and he can open his heart and mind and body to you very very quickly if he's "feeling it" for you.
But unless he feels a deeper level of interest for you that goes beyond physical attraction... than no matter how much you do or share together, he’s not going to start having the desire to have a real relationship with you.
Instead, he'll simply have one of those "this is good for now" relationships.If you're the kind of woman who wants a man to cherish you, appreciate you, and want to be with you and only you... then this isn't the kind of "connection" and relationship you want.
So to answer the question directly, "How do I know where my relationship is going?"... I’ll tell you-
You know where it's going by creating the feelings inside a man that make him crave being with you... To the point that he can't help but want more.
And when you're doing the things that make a man get out of his "logical brain" that tells him that he should be cautious and careful about a woman and committing to a relationship...
And you get him into his heart where he starts listening to his feelings for you and allowing them to make his decisions about what he wants with you and your relationship...
Only then will you quickly move past any resistance a man might have to moving into a real relationship with you.
And what's more, you'll get to avoid the dreaded uncertain and on again/off again relationship where a man just isn't sure what he wants with you.
"If a man doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't want what he's got."
ok, but what does it really mean that if a man doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't wan what he's got?
It means that if you get that awful uncertain feeling from a man where he doesn't seem to know(or care) about where your relationship is going, then he isn't emotionally engaged in your relationship, and there's no amount of talking or pleading or convincing that will make him feel or act differently.
You can't talk a man into wanting something he isn't already feeling - although lots of women make the fatal mistake of trying to convince a man to "get with it" and commit on a deeper level to the relationships.
Too bad that it just doesn't work this way.
And, in fact... if you try to convince a man of the value of your relationship, or your love, or tell him how he should feel... it will completely backfire.
And he'll feel the opposite of attraction for you. He’ll feel repelled by you... and he'll
resist everything about your relationship and the future.
In other words... the answer to knowing where your relationship is going in a man's mind isn't something to look for and find through words and talking to him.
This isn't the language most men speak when it comes to love, relationships, and how they are feeling.
You can tell much much more by a man's actions. His actions don't lie. Why? Well, it's simple but powerful and important once you learn how it works-
A man's actions are ruled by the way he feels. Whatever he feels drives him to act.
So whenever you do something, whenever you say something, or whenever you have a specific feeling or emotion of your own... a man will have a feeling of his own in response to you.
And that feeling in response will drive him to act a certain way.
Here are a few key areas or situations to think about in terms of how the man in your life feels with you, and how he responds:
When he's around you on a day to day basis-When you want to talk about your relationship.When you feel an intense emotion and communicate and share it with him
When he's away from you and sees how you react and respond in his absence
When you're upset or frustrated-When he doesn't seem to listen or respond to you So let me ask you...How does the man in your life feel when he's around you?
Do you share a fun, carefree, loving connection where he feels stronger, more empowered, and more free to pursue his goals and dreams because of you and how you are with him?
Or does he feel restricted, limited, held back, and like a relationship with you will make it harder to live his life and achieve his purpose?
And... since you can tell more about a man from his actions than what he might or might not say... how does he respond to you in these situations?
I want you to think about something very carefully right now that every mature woman discovers at some point in her life when it comes to the way she communicates and interacts in relationships-
The response you get from a man is largely determined by what you say and what you do.Or as others have put it before- "Communication is the response you get."
Meaning... the only measure of how well you Communicate in your relationship is the result of how the other person responds. (Him)
Nothing else really matters... if you're intent on truly being heard and creating a deep level of understanding between you and a man.
But too many women don't have the patience, think or feel like this takes too much "work", or just can't keep their composure and share their feelings and emotions in a way that doesn't just serve to push a man away.
Becoming frustrated when a man doesn't "get it” and blaming him for not understanding you is a sure fire way to end up putting more distance between you and a man - permanently.
The more you ask yourself the question of "How can I make him get it?"... the more you're going to hold on to the mindset that isn't working for you and stay stuck and frustrated with the way things are now.
There's a little secret to the way our minds work. And part of that secret is this-
Whatever questions we put into our minds, our minds will constantly be trying to find a way to work out the answer for us.
Here's the problem with this... People are constantly asking themselves the wrong questions... or questions that only lead to more problems and questions.
In other words... the questions you ask yourself have everything to do with the kind of answers you get back from your mind, and from the world around you.
Most women who are uncertain about their relationships and don't know where things are headed ask themselves questions such as:
a) "Why isn't he interested in talking and moving our relationship forward?"
b) "How come he's afraid of committing?"
c) "Why didn't he call me?"
If you look at all 3 of these questions, which are ones I hear women ask all the time, you’ll notice that there's something similar going on inside all of these questions-
These questions all come from a "negative" belief that something is wrong, and are asking not how to do something right... but instead
focus on what's going wrong.
The question you ask yourself not only determines where your "energy", attention, and focus go...
But the more you pay attention to them, the more you’ll start to see that they actually share the way you see the world... and the way the world looks back and responds to you.
Men included. The right questions to ask instead would be:
1) "How does it work for a man to want to move a
relationship forward, and what can I do to help
this happen?"
2) "What does it take for a man to commit?"
3) "Why do some men constantly communicate and
share with the women in their lives... and how
do I create this in my relationship?"
Now you're on the right track. I think you're starting to see the difference,
and that's just the tip of the iceberg.
If you're looking to find out what it really takes to make a man feel that intense attraction for you that goes beyond Physical Attraction...
And reaches inside him to a deeper emotional level that allows him to truly connect with you and experience what it takes for him to know that you’re the kind of woman he wants to be with now and in the future... and who he is ready and willing to commit to, then there's something you need to remember-
What a man does (his actions) are determined by the way he feels.
And if a man feels a deep level of attraction for you, then his actions will instantly reflect this in his openness to give and share his love with you... and to move into a more serious and lasting relationship.
But if you make the common mistakes lots of women make such as trying to convince a man to feel more or want more with you... you'll only make things worse and have him withdraw even further.
I want to help make sure you avoid the common mistakes women make in trying to build a deeper connection and relationship with a man that accidentally turn a man off instead.
"Convincing" is just one of several "strategies” that is sure to fail with even a great guy. There’s a better way...
To learn exactly what you can start doing to make the man in your life quickly start feeling and experiencing this deep gut-level attraction for you, no matter what was happening before...learn all about the attraction secrets that work with men in relationships.
You can learn my foundational tips, insights, and get to the bottom of what's going on inside the mind of a man by putting them into practice.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
If you feel "stuck" and he doesn't seem to be feeling it for you the way he used to... and just talking and opening up has become a problem between you two and creates more "drama" than it does help you connect- don't keep doing the things that have caused him to withdraw in the first place.
If you'd like a shortcut to the quickest way to get the passion back to where your guy can't help but be affectionate and is wild about spending time alone with you...
Then the quickest way to make him feel this way again, and avoid frustrating arguments that end up nowhere... is to learn the secrets to making a man feel so attracted to you that he'll have to keep you close and connected in your relationship now and in the future.
Learn how to create this kind of attraction right. Well, I want to answer an important question about men and relationships that women ask me all the time.
The answer may surprise you when it comes to what really works to turn around a "troubled” relationship that feels like it's going nowhere and quickly recapture that "spark."Here goes...Question-
"How do I figure out where my relationship is going... and how do I know what he wants and if he feels the same way I do?"
If I had a nickel for every woman who asked this question. Let me put this in perspective for you...
The very best situation to be in if you're starting a new relationship is to have a man so clearly feeling attracted to you that he’s the one who wants to make plans to be with you all the time.
Of course, this involves more than just the plain old physical attraction a man can feel for lots of "attractive" women.
As a woman, you might already get how "easy” Physical Attraction is for a man to feel. ...and how a man can and will be with a woman not because he really likes or loves her... but because he has a strong desire to be physically intimate with her.
It's never a bad thing if a man has this kind of raw passion and desire for you.
But... There has to be something more than him feeling a strong physical desire to be with you if want things to turn into a real relationship.And this is where way too many women make their first mistake with a man-
I call this mistake "The Danger Of A Connection."This is mistaking the Physical Attraction a man feels with you... and the affection, compliments, and "quality time" a man will spend with you as a signal of his desire for a relationship.
When he's simply enjoying the connection you feel. With a man, a great connection does not mean he wants or feels that "relationship feeling" with you-
Even though for lots of women, these things are one in the same. Here's the reality when it comes to men...
A man can share an amazing "connection" with you that is truly intimate and caring, and he can open his heart and mind and body to you very very quickly if he's "feeling it" for you.
But unless he feels a deeper level of interest for you that goes beyond physical attraction... than no matter how much you do or share together, he’s not going to start having the desire to have a real relationship with you.
Instead, he'll simply have one of those "this is good for now" relationships.If you're the kind of woman who wants a man to cherish you, appreciate you, and want to be with you and only you... then this isn't the kind of "connection" and relationship you want.
So to answer the question directly, "How do I know where my relationship is going?"... I’ll tell you-
You know where it's going by creating the feelings inside a man that make him crave being with you... To the point that he can't help but want more.
And when you're doing the things that make a man get out of his "logical brain" that tells him that he should be cautious and careful about a woman and committing to a relationship...
And you get him into his heart where he starts listening to his feelings for you and allowing them to make his decisions about what he wants with you and your relationship...
Only then will you quickly move past any resistance a man might have to moving into a real relationship with you.
And what's more, you'll get to avoid the dreaded uncertain and on again/off again relationship where a man just isn't sure what he wants with you.
"If a man doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't want what he's got."
ok, but what does it really mean that if a man doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't wan what he's got?
It means that if you get that awful uncertain feeling from a man where he doesn't seem to know(or care) about where your relationship is going, then he isn't emotionally engaged in your relationship, and there's no amount of talking or pleading or convincing that will make him feel or act differently.
You can't talk a man into wanting something he isn't already feeling - although lots of women make the fatal mistake of trying to convince a man to "get with it" and commit on a deeper level to the relationships.
Too bad that it just doesn't work this way.
And, in fact... if you try to convince a man of the value of your relationship, or your love, or tell him how he should feel... it will completely backfire.
And he'll feel the opposite of attraction for you. He’ll feel repelled by you... and he'll
resist everything about your relationship and the future.
In other words... the answer to knowing where your relationship is going in a man's mind isn't something to look for and find through words and talking to him.
This isn't the language most men speak when it comes to love, relationships, and how they are feeling.
You can tell much much more by a man's actions. His actions don't lie. Why? Well, it's simple but powerful and important once you learn how it works-
A man's actions are ruled by the way he feels. Whatever he feels drives him to act.
So whenever you do something, whenever you say something, or whenever you have a specific feeling or emotion of your own... a man will have a feeling of his own in response to you.
And that feeling in response will drive him to act a certain way.
Here are a few key areas or situations to think about in terms of how the man in your life feels with you, and how he responds:
When he's around you on a day to day basis-When you want to talk about your relationship.When you feel an intense emotion and communicate and share it with him
When he's away from you and sees how you react and respond in his absence
When you're upset or frustrated-When he doesn't seem to listen or respond to you So let me ask you...How does the man in your life feel when he's around you?
Do you share a fun, carefree, loving connection where he feels stronger, more empowered, and more free to pursue his goals and dreams because of you and how you are with him?
Or does he feel restricted, limited, held back, and like a relationship with you will make it harder to live his life and achieve his purpose?
And... since you can tell more about a man from his actions than what he might or might not say... how does he respond to you in these situations?
I want you to think about something very carefully right now that every mature woman discovers at some point in her life when it comes to the way she communicates and interacts in relationships-
The response you get from a man is largely determined by what you say and what you do.Or as others have put it before- "Communication is the response you get."
Meaning... the only measure of how well you Communicate in your relationship is the result of how the other person responds. (Him)
Nothing else really matters... if you're intent on truly being heard and creating a deep level of understanding between you and a man.
But too many women don't have the patience, think or feel like this takes too much "work", or just can't keep their composure and share their feelings and emotions in a way that doesn't just serve to push a man away.
Becoming frustrated when a man doesn't "get it” and blaming him for not understanding you is a sure fire way to end up putting more distance between you and a man - permanently.
The more you ask yourself the question of "How can I make him get it?"... the more you're going to hold on to the mindset that isn't working for you and stay stuck and frustrated with the way things are now.
There's a little secret to the way our minds work. And part of that secret is this-
Whatever questions we put into our minds, our minds will constantly be trying to find a way to work out the answer for us.
Here's the problem with this... People are constantly asking themselves the wrong questions... or questions that only lead to more problems and questions.
In other words... the questions you ask yourself have everything to do with the kind of answers you get back from your mind, and from the world around you.
Most women who are uncertain about their relationships and don't know where things are headed ask themselves questions such as:
a) "Why isn't he interested in talking and moving our relationship forward?"
b) "How come he's afraid of committing?"
c) "Why didn't he call me?"
If you look at all 3 of these questions, which are ones I hear women ask all the time, you’ll notice that there's something similar going on inside all of these questions-
These questions all come from a "negative" belief that something is wrong, and are asking not how to do something right... but instead
focus on what's going wrong.
The question you ask yourself not only determines where your "energy", attention, and focus go...
But the more you pay attention to them, the more you’ll start to see that they actually share the way you see the world... and the way the world looks back and responds to you.
Men included. The right questions to ask instead would be:
1) "How does it work for a man to want to move a
relationship forward, and what can I do to help
this happen?"
2) "What does it take for a man to commit?"
3) "Why do some men constantly communicate and
share with the women in their lives... and how
do I create this in my relationship?"
Now you're on the right track. I think you're starting to see the difference,
and that's just the tip of the iceberg.
If you're looking to find out what it really takes to make a man feel that intense attraction for you that goes beyond Physical Attraction...
And reaches inside him to a deeper emotional level that allows him to truly connect with you and experience what it takes for him to know that you’re the kind of woman he wants to be with now and in the future... and who he is ready and willing to commit to, then there's something you need to remember-
What a man does (his actions) are determined by the way he feels.
And if a man feels a deep level of attraction for you, then his actions will instantly reflect this in his openness to give and share his love with you... and to move into a more serious and lasting relationship.
But if you make the common mistakes lots of women make such as trying to convince a man to feel more or want more with you... you'll only make things worse and have him withdraw even further.
I want to help make sure you avoid the common mistakes women make in trying to build a deeper connection and relationship with a man that accidentally turn a man off instead.
"Convincing" is just one of several "strategies” that is sure to fail with even a great guy. There’s a better way...
To learn exactly what you can start doing to make the man in your life quickly start feeling and experiencing this deep gut-level attraction for you, no matter what was happening before...learn all about the attraction secrets that work with men in relationships.
You can learn my foundational tips, insights, and get to the bottom of what's going on inside the mind of a man by putting them into practice.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
How Can I Initiate Sex To My Husband?
I have the feeling my husband wants me to initiate sex, but for some reason I have trouble with that, even though I truly enjoy sex.
I'm affectionate with him and am very attracted to him, so it isn't that.
But when it comes to seducing him, I feel silly, shy or somehow like a fraud maybe even "cheap".
Sex advice needed! What can I do to overcome this?My Sex Advice
Often women have been taught that it is not their place to be the initiator. It's always been the norm for a man to make the first move. Our society teaches that girls need to wait for the man to ask, that women who are pushy in bed are not usually the ones who get to walk down the aisle.
Our sex advice is that you need to free yourself from these old beliefs and you will find that it will be easier to express who you really are - whether that is sexually, or in any other creative area of your life. Then you can say: "This is what I want to do! I choose to really feel this feeling, or have this experience! It's mine, and by God, I'm going to enjoy and express myself."
Then, if initiating sex is fun, and you want to express yourself in that way, you will.
I also sense that you are not sure what your partner really wants.
Here's another sex advice - ask him. Find out how he would like you to be about initiating sex.
Perhaps you can develop a special "sign" that indicates your interest, or use private emails, love notes or secret hand signals. That way you don't have to feel as if you are reciting lines from a bad porno flick to be the sexual person you want to be.
He could also show you what he wants you to do.
Remember that one of the wonders of being married is that you can do whatever you want with your husband without feeling bad about it!
I hope this sex advice will help you.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
I'm affectionate with him and am very attracted to him, so it isn't that.
But when it comes to seducing him, I feel silly, shy or somehow like a fraud maybe even "cheap".
Sex advice needed! What can I do to overcome this?My Sex Advice
Often women have been taught that it is not their place to be the initiator. It's always been the norm for a man to make the first move. Our society teaches that girls need to wait for the man to ask, that women who are pushy in bed are not usually the ones who get to walk down the aisle.
Our sex advice is that you need to free yourself from these old beliefs and you will find that it will be easier to express who you really are - whether that is sexually, or in any other creative area of your life. Then you can say: "This is what I want to do! I choose to really feel this feeling, or have this experience! It's mine, and by God, I'm going to enjoy and express myself."
Then, if initiating sex is fun, and you want to express yourself in that way, you will.
I also sense that you are not sure what your partner really wants.
Here's another sex advice - ask him. Find out how he would like you to be about initiating sex.
Perhaps you can develop a special "sign" that indicates your interest, or use private emails, love notes or secret hand signals. That way you don't have to feel as if you are reciting lines from a bad porno flick to be the sexual person you want to be.
He could also show you what he wants you to do.
Remember that one of the wonders of being married is that you can do whatever you want with your husband without feeling bad about it!
I hope this sex advice will help you.
I will talk to you again soon.
Keep on Dating There is someone out there for
everyone.
Best of luck in life and love!
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