Thursday, April 10, 2008

Still You Are Having Sex Without Love...

Mistake #7) Rushing To Judgment About Your
Man's Character By Physical observations Alone

People aren't easy to figure out.Especially the opposite sex.The last several years of my life I've
spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people. I've studied peoples behavior, "inner
psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.

From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're
first getting to know a man.

They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something
more serious. Men are different.Men generally communicate with sarcasm,
humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays of status.

Very rarely will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's
ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship. Aside from their sexual interests, men
send very indirect signals about where they're at.

If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong
message.Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.You can avoid this pain if you learn to identify a good man from a bad one.
Mistake #8) Make Yourself Before You Make Your Man Happy

A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy
and fulfilled.And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than
hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.

And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy,
loving, nurturing people out there.Think, "controlling, macho or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear....I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether
it's dating, a relationship, etc.

But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete
her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what
the man will think of her.It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...

If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.So what can you do as a woman?

You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where
he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.

Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.But you have to know how to create this situation with a man....and it rarely happens by accident.

Mistake #9) Don't Bargain To Be Liked Or To Be Loved

What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not
that interested or isn't as serious?Right! They try to "convince" the man to
feel differently.Well, I have news for you...


Never, ever, ever. Never,ever,ever again.You cannot convince a man to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".Think about it. A man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him?

But we all do it. Men are the worst at this by the way. They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.Women like the behavior sometimes, but it
NEVER makes the woman like the man.

She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS
about him.When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.Bad idea. Another one that will never work.

Mistake #10) Confused Of What To Do In Your Relationship

A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...And I don't mean just sex.I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.

And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting,
or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

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